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I picked this up mid-conversation because of a crash:
[22:47] mxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Sorry for asking... But what means NGN/FGN? rainbow-hand-transparent I'm back to SL after a long while and have to refresh my memory squinting-face-grin-emojo
[22:47] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: NGN = No Group Needed, FGN = Free Group Needed
[22:48] mxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Ahhhh. Thank you :)
[23:06] bxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Hi lots of chairs at [store]
[23:07] Kxxx Rxxxxxxx: Needs paid group...
[23:08] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Bxxxx]? Are you new to [this group]?
[23:09] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: You cannot post LLs & MMs that require a pay group.
[23:10] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: POSTING FORMAT in [this group] *Store Name* *NGN or FGN* *Numbers* *Description of item prize* *LM* *In any order :)* [23:11] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: Need 6 more clicks on the MM at [store]Wishbox for [dress]
[23:12] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Exxxxxxxx], I just posted the proper format for posting MMs in SLFO.
[23:12] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Do you see it?
[23:12] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: No, just now logged in to check the board. :)
[23:12] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: POSTING FORMAT in SLFO *Store Name* *NGN or FGN* *Numbers* *Description of item prize* *LM* *In any order :)*
[23:13] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: What is NGN or FGN?
[23:13] Vxxxxx Bxxxx: not good f nothing?
[23:13] jxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: no group or free group needed
[23:13] Vxxxxx Bxxxx: lol
[23:13] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: Ahh... Okay
[23:14] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: NGN = No Group Needed, FGN = Gree Group Needed
[23:14] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: Thanks, her target is only 30, but she never fills it. She really needs more traffic here
[23:14] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: Thanks for the help, it just filled
[23:14] jxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: if u tp me i will hit the board
[23:15] jxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: currently standing in an ocean lol
[23:15] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Next time post it in the proper format? You can find that format in the 5th tab in my picks in my profile.
[23:15] Emilly Orr: I should put [store] on my checklist, though. I used to have a lot of her dresses.
[23:15] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Also, 30 minutes between postings.
[23:15] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: We are currently spamming that store.
[23:16] Emilly Orr: I thought I was just discussing it, but I understand.
I didn't, really, but I've had trouble in other groups over asking questions that got me kicked out, so...I'm a bit gunshy.

Now, this mod did IM me right after this:
[23:16] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: You caught the tail of it lol
[23:17] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Was trying to teach [Exxxxxxxx] lol
[23:17] Emilly Orr: Okay. I didn't think just mentioning the store name was wrong.
[23:17] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I don't think so, either.
[23:17] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Trying to get a happy medium going
[23:18] Emilly Orr: Oh, sure. It can be hard, I know.
[23:18] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: heart-balloon
So basically, the mod doesn't think just one mention of a store is out of line, but several of us mentioning the same store in the spate of a few minutes might be? Something to keep in mind.

Back to the main chat:
[23:16] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: No worries. I posted it early this morning and figured I'd check it before bed.
[23:17] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: Her store was gone for a while, glad to see her back. She has some really nice stuff. :)
I didn't realize she'd left.
[23:18] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Exxxxxxxx], you are continuing to spam that store.
And by these rules, now explained, she is. We all were, I suppose.
[23:18] Txxxxxxxxx Gxxxxxxxxxx: jesus.
[23:18] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: Umm... No. I posted it once
[23:18] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Talking about it is posting it.
[23:18] jxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Txxxxxxxxxx]
[23:19] Txxxxxxxxx Gxxxxxxxxxx: hugs [Txx].. :) but closing this. lol.
[23:19] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Txxxx], be careful of the language please.
This is a very PG group, and they hold to strict PG rules.
[23:19] Txxxxxxxxx Gxxxxxxxxxx: excuse me?
[23:19] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: Huh? Okay, was just discussing it. Sorry
[23:19] Txxxxxxxxx Gxxxxxxxxxx: Jesus is now a bad word?
When used in a prayer, no. When used as a curse, probably, according to this group's rules. Those, at least, are stated in the group description.
[23:19] fxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx nods at [Txxxx] and *grinz* remember not to breathh too much here [Txxxx]
Uncalled for.
[23:20] Txxxxxxxxx Gxxxxxxxxxx: no [sh*t]
[23:20] Txxxxxxxxx Gxxxxxxxxxx: there.. now you can yell at me for language
Wau, now Ms. T's just being a jerk.
[23:20] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: Seems a little unreasonable to not be able to even talk about a store, but it's fine
[23:21] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: So, let me see, cussing and spamming are ok, tonight?
[23:21] fxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx chuckles and, crawls back into her cave.
[23:22] axxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: makes a nice big cave for himself and [Dxxxxx], filled with Excederin and water and lots of kale.
I get the painkiller, but why the kale?
[23:23] txxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: brings out the swear jar
[23:28] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: Okay, out of curiosity, what do you consider spam? I always thought repeatedly posting the same thing was spam, but maybe my definition is wrong
[23:29] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Post a store, then wait 30 minutes to mention it or refer to it again.
[23:30] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: Okay, that's a bit strange, but I'll do that
[23:30] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Thank you, [Exxxxxxxx].
[23:30] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: We appreciate that.
So, at least this one resolved semi-equitably, but the rules are getting a bit more restrictive for a freebie and gift group.

[[Note from the Editrix, hours later. This just happened in the same group.]]

An update:
[20:55] lxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: have any of u tried any of the haagen Daas booze flavor ice creams? the bourbon is to die for!
[20:55] Axxxxx Bxxxxxx: its sooooooo good Shelby isn't it
[20:56] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: OOoo no alcohol talk, guys.
[20:56] Pxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: moon shine
[20:56] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Petunia... no alcohol talk, please.
[20:56] PetuniaSunShine: ok
[20:57] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: heart-balloon
Yeah. The rules in this group have definitely become more restrictive. Not sure why, and a tad bit puzzled by it.


Scenes from a Chat: Verboten Demos edition

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Again, while I'm anonymizing the names, this is clearly from Meli Imako's group, because hers is the group of designers that have never in the past, do not now in the present, and likely WILL never in the future offer demos for their mesh templates. No, I don't know why. Yes, I think it's silly. No, I don't think they're going to change their minds after six-plus years of demo-less operations.

But I found this interesting:
[21:08] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: does anyone have the MI960331 strider boots I can demo?
This is our apparent troublemaker. Troublemaker, because that's what he's doing, and apparent because to be fair, I also believe there should be demos offered in any store that sells things, flat out.
[21:08] Nxxxxxx Ox: check mp. people do demos there
True. You have to really understand what you're looking for, though. Like, for those, I'd probably be searching terms like "goth boots", "biker boots", "tall buckled boots" or "black leather flat heel boots"...and that's a lot of terrain to cover in the attempt to narrow down.
[21:10] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I need to test it out before buying
[21:11] Txxxxxx Fxxxxxxxx: find somene selling them on MP and get their demo
[21:12] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: ok
[21:13] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: no luck. Hoped somoene here would be able to send me a no trans copy
[21:13] Txxxxxx Fxxxxxxxx: They don't look rigged so you should be able to resize
This is another thing. They may not offer demos, which I am not in favor of, but the designers are pretty clear as to what bodies it's rigged for, or if it's just standard mesh sizes, if it is rigged or unrigged, if it can be resized, before anyone buys it. And if anyone still has questions beyond that, sending a notecard to a group mod or to a designer generally clears things up. I've done that.
[21:14] Txxxxxx Fxxxxxxxx [Mxxxxxx] you were warned
[21:14] Nxxxxxx Ox: actually check mp this time..
[21:15] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I actually did check mp
[21:15] Nxxxxxx Ox: in a minute??
Yeah. I am dubious as well. At the very least it would take more than a minute to decide on search terms and check the first ten pages.
[21:15] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: and as I own a thousand MI products, i'd love to buy that one too.
[21:16] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: yes, i typed in the name of the boot. How else would i find what im looking for?
Yeah, so...you may not be aware of this, but...people change the names of things. You won't find that specific pair of boots with that specific name anywhere other than from that specific store. Just...so you're aware.
[21:16] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Oh, wait, i could search for 10,000 products instead? yeah no
Yeah, yes. Yes, that's exactly what you should have done. Elsewise, you're not going to find anything but the Meli boots you're already pondering.
[21:16] Nxxxxxx Ox: then you wont get to demo the boots
[21:16] Nxxxxxx Ox: :p just wait they go sale maybe
It's an option. Meli has a lot of sales, still offers group gifts on the Marketplace, now that the in-world store has shuttered, so it's worth it to belong to the group to get a heads-up on when these things happen.
[21:17] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Txxxxxx], are you a mod?
You, uh, you couldn't tell by the fact that every time she types anything, it comes up in bold?
[21:17] Txxxxxx Fxxxxxxxx: yes
[21:17] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: what rule precisely am i breaking?
[21:18] Txxxxxx Fxxxxxxxx: Asking people to make you a demo is not allowed
And to be fair, I didn't know this either, but I've never asked anyone to make me a demo of whatever item I have interest in. I've just asked if anyone who has the template and is selling the template has made a demo for it.
[21:19] Txxxxxx Fxxxxxxxx: per [Meli]
Which I'm leaving intact as a name, because yes, her group, her rules. Do I understand why? No. Do I care to stir the pot by asking why? No.
[21:19] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Ok, I didn't realize that. Used to be ok
No, it didn't. Or at least, not in all the years I've been in the group.
[21:19] Txxxxxx Fxxxxxxxx: No not okay, you just didn't get caught
There you go, then.
[21:19] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: someone rezzing it out on the ground for me to compare would also help
Well, that's between you and other group members; as long as you don't ask someone IN the group to do that, you're probably fine.

Scenes from a Chat: Explosions and Exits edition (part 1)

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Why do these exist? I'm just confused.

But onto the topic at hand. I got into a conversation about recent...shall we say...new restrictive policies in one of my gifts and cheapies groups. (Not identifying the group, per usual, but if you know, you know.) But during that conversation, something came up about another recent patch of drama that had occurred earlier this morning.

So, I am going to anonymize the user to which this happened, but I am leaving everything else intact. And I've kept the original card, if anyone wants it. This is with permission, as noted below. And I'm also pretty sure this is going to be long, so this is the first of two (at least) entries.
On 5 November 1605, Guy Fawkes, a member of the Gunpowder Plot, attempted to blow up the House of Lords in EnglandOn 5 November 2019, [Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx] let blew her lid off and here is what happened in [the group in question]

Enjoy and feel free to share mew-smile-emoji
I skipped the beginning section, to get to the relevant sections, but the notecard has everything.
[05:53] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Yeah ! finally got into that sim to slap my fav MMs squinting-face-grin-emojo
[05:53] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Sorry, not postable here frowning-emoji-shadowed
[05:54] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Any texture places you guys might know ?
[05:54] yxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: ohh everyday thy post some, but I can't remember the names aww
[05:54] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [PX] : USC, Timeless and Philomena are now "Do Not Post"
For anyone lost, the Philomena mentioned there is the designer for Texture Junction.
[05:55] yxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: really??? timeless it is posted daily
[05:55] hxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: they moved to a new sim and now got classified as a "mall"
Now, this is very odd. Because Xzavia hasn't changed a thing in her store environment, save for a new build FOR the store--she had mini-stores rented off her main store for all her former years of operation, and, now that she's on the adult sim, she's done the same thing. She is not a mall, if by the earlier standards she qualified, because they're even the same stores!
[05:55] yxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: yikes!!
[05:55] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I know, lol, but recently they classd it as "Mall" - Just saying
[05:56] yxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: *smh* sad
[05:56] yxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: but if you have the LM go anyway. Only not posting.
[05:56] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Hxxxxxxx], yes. Xavia (Timeless) has built a big mall around her new place, and Phil built on a sim theat has "Mall" in the sim name frowning-emoji-shadowed
Yeah, no, that's not accurate. She had satellite shops on her last sim. She has satellite shops on this one. They're even the same satellite shops for the most part. So she's either NOT a mall now, or she IS a mall now, and she always WAS, so nothing's changed.
[05:57] yxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: a Mall is a Mal (evil) *chuckle*
[05:57] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Oh I still go, lol, just feel the fingers fighting to post lol
[05:57] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Well, there is a story about Malls, and how and why they were banned in [this group]
[05:57] yxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: *puts an icecream on [Cxxxxxxx's] fingers*
[05:58] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: "they" were banned because they caused floods of posts, mostly for not-so-good items
[05:58] yxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Malls have.... very assorted stores. I think that is the reason.
These rules date from the same era as the no vehicles rules, no MMs in clubs, and no animation/pose/AO shop MMs, because those three categories were generally full of ripped content, and many of the malls at that time sold that ripped content, and this group wanted to sidestep that entire mess.
[05:59] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: At the time, a Mall was a collection of small, cheaply rented shops, with a few MMs or LCs inside, most in sight of each other
[05:59] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: So somebody wold walk into a Mall, and post 20 shops, followed by other members posting an other flood of MMs there
[06:00] Xxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I can admit to being curious about that...though I can make some guesses...not a big thing to me, really, as group owners can make whatever rules they want. I can imagine there must have been some bad experiences at some point.
[06:00] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Not criticising, just telling a story around the camp fire
[06:00] Xxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: And some of what I see posted would have been my guesses winky-face-smiley
[06:00] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: bad experience eas flood of posts
[06:01] Xxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I am only 3-plus years in SL, so not familiar with a lot history..good or bad
[06:01] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Nowadays, if you look at a "Mall" like Timeless Textures, it is a different beast. More quality, fewer shops
[06:02] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: but the "No Malls" rule habit is now engrained, to the point where Mods will refuse to have a look, and allow _That_Mall_Only to be posted
It's worse than that, because the mods approved Timeless before. They won't now. And it's not just the shift from Moderate to Adult on the sim--they've allowed Adult sims before, as long as there is nothing in direct view that has adult animations, or can be in any way considered adult. And I know this for a fact--Xzavia pored over the ToS where child avatars and Adult sims were concerned. NOTHING happens that is Zindra-level Adult on her sim. It's just shops in the sky, there's no access to any Adult items, furniture, attire, period. It's essentially PG in that regard, so it SHOULD be approved by the mods, exactly as it was before.

But oh no, it's suddenly a "Mall" and nope, can't be posted.
[06:03] hxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Yup. I was told in no uncertain terms yesterday that they will not consider that.
[06:03] yxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: we lost some stores that way, but we need keep going ahead
But do we, is the question I have. Take the example of Timeless again. She is no more a mall than she was before, which is to say, she's either not a mall now, or she was a mall then. Pick one and hold to it, but don't tell me she wasn't a mall before, and she IS now, and THAT'S why you don't allow it, because that means a) you're lying to my face or b) stupid beyond all redemption. Which is it?
[06:04] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: What bugs me is not "The Rules"... Just the way the newest bunch of Mods have been interpreting them... To the letter, strictly, and not to the spirit for which they were intended
[06:04] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Old hands here will know what I am talking about if they were here 6 or 7 years ago winky-face-smiley
[06:05] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Well, keep hunting, ask a Mod if it can be posted, repeat mew-smile-emoji
[06:05] Nxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: There is a group that does allow malls that does allow shops in adult areas that even allows adult material , just not this group , this group is only for gatcha give aways and for pg shops
Uh...since when? This group has, since the VERY BEGINNING, been for Midnight Manias, Mini-Manias, group gifts, extremely discounted items, and for posting free-to-join groups if needed to get their group gifts. Since when was it only for posting gacha giveaways?
[06:06] yxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: but we look fabulous, anyway *winks*
[06:06] Nxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: exactly
[06:06] hxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I am no longer comfortable posting any stores in this group. Even if I do my absolute best to follow the rules as I know and understand them after several eyars in the group, I get shouted at every time. Not politely corrected. Shot down. It's not worth it.
And this reaction is getting posted more and more after. Even I've basically come to the conclusion that unless what I have to say is something I think utterly inoffensive and within all bounds of all rules, I won't post, or chat. Because 90% of the time I'm corrected anyway.
[06:07] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: and you are not the only one to feel that way
[06:08] hxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: It's really sad as I used to love it.
Me too.
[06:09] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: 5 years ago, it was great
[06:09] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: There were arguments with the Mods at times, sure, but the atmosphere was different
[06:09] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: and Mods were usually polite, never openly insulting
[06:10] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: 7 years in this Group, and I never saw anyone being shouted at in CAPS in Group
[06:10] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Until [Dxxxxx] showed up frowning-emoji-shadowed
[06:11] Nxxx Gxxxxxxxx: what exactly is the thing people keep getting shot down for? I usually just close this chat so I rarely see it
[06:11] hxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: That's the thing. I could get used to it, if the moderation treated us as humans who were trying, then I could get used ot the rules being tightened. But I won't be shouted at when I'm trying the best I can to comply.
To be fair, she has a point. I think all of us are getting beyond tired of being treated as misbehaving five-year-olds when we make mistakes and post things that are against the rules that we never see posted anywhere. It would be nice to be treated as adults, and simply told, X is not allowed, and we'd all move on. Instead, there's a lot of condescension, and that sensation of rulers snapping over knuckles, and it's getting draining to deal with.
[06:11] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: 2 of my friends saw that, and went... That's is, not posting anymore when Her Majesty is here
[06:11] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: uh uh
[06:12] hxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: And to be fair, some mods still do, some are still great, when they're here.
[06:13] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: amd when a Mod says "Read The Rules", do they understand how that makes you feel ? You know the rules, you have read them for 7 years, just this time, you could not see that this skybox shop was a Mall... No way... but they still hit you with a "Read Thre Rules"
And again, keep in mind, when they say "Read the Rules", these are the rules:
[Group name] is an international shopping group for daily notices about frees, sales & nice gifts!

Our blog: [blog site address]

NOT ALLOWED in chat:
Store ads/spam/self-promotion
3 lines MAX posts
MP & most outside links
Drama/rudeness
Criticizing stores/gifts
Malls-Franchises
Disco/Club/DJ ads
Breedables
Rental/sale
Most Adult sims/items
Gambling
Pay MM/LBs/gifts
RP: OOC only
NO blog links
AO with adult anim
Vehicles

Question? contact [Exxxx], [Hxxxx Rxxxxxxx] or [Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx]
And two of those three names, according to the third (mentioned in the next entry), are not good contact points because they never log in anymore. So...why list them? How is that effective?
[06:13] lxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: then follow the rules
You say that like the rules are obvious. They aren't. They used to be, even up to a year ago, but now there are the stated rules in the group's description, and about five pages now of "unofficial" rules no one's being told about until they're in violation of one or more of them.
[06:13] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Yes. Forget some names, because they are not here as often as before, but [Zxx] is a great Mod, some others too
[06:14] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: although they all have hardened under the new namagement
I think so, too. And I'd love to know where the new level of stubborn thick-headedness is coming from. I have my theories, but nothing's confirmed as of yet.
[06:14] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: it is nice to see when you log in that Mods don't seem to do a good job when they point out the rules
[06:14] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: thank you fo rthat info
Way to take everything completely personally, Ms. R. Listen. Mm. C is saying NOTHING NEW. These points have come up in the past. There is unrest in the group and much of it can be laid at the feet of the moderators. Things need to change, and no mod in this group seems either willing to, or capable of, the change needed.
[06:15] Pxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: hi [rxxx]
[06:15] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Rxxx], telling someone to read the rules will not make that person see that a shop is a Mall
Especially when it's not a mall.
[06:16] lxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: i think your doing a great job
[06:17] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: some things are general knowledge and if you are told it is a mall and you did not recognize it as such - it is a learning point
[06:17] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: It is, yes, but at the cost of a painful face
[06:17] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: It is also the way it is done...
[06:18] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: we all have those moments, I just had one when I read what yiu said
[06:18] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: The member reads "It is a mall, you idiot, can't you read"
[06:18] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: that is their opinion, not the tntention of a mod who wrote it
Are you sure?
[06:18] hxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I think the issue is in how it is communicated. "Sorry x, that store just moved to a mall sim and is no longer allowed in chat" is very different from "read the rules" iwth no further explanation. The latter is the kind of thing we're feeling frustrated with. The former is reasonable and treats us like persons.
Yes. This. Absolutely this.
[06:19] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: We are all human, and some of us have mental health problems. We come in here to relax and escape our problems, and a lot of us feel that it might be better if we were talked to in a way we would find friendlier, more supportive
[06:19] hxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: To be clear [Rxxx], I have never seen the latter kind of thing from you personally.
[06:19] Pxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: i do
[06:19] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Right [Hxxxxxxx]
[06:19] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: Mods are usually extremely busy with checking stores, watching chat and trying to post some nice free things.
[06:19] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: which does not justify rudeness
[06:20] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: And sometimes they react in a short way, like I am sure you do from time to time too
[06:20] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: that is not being rude but just a sign of too much to do and no time to explain properly
You know how you fix this? Put a link in the group description. Send all your mods that link. That link will be to a blog site, or a website page, and all it needs to say is here's a list of the basic rules, and why they're rules. You could send that out to anyone who asks why. Take all of five minutes to put it together, and all of two seconds to paste it into chat. Why not do that?
[06:20] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Rxxx], you've been here for long time and you know that the tone changed recently in this chat... it's not occasional, it's systematic
[06:20] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Mods do a stressful job... and they might want to consider that the stress they are subjected to shows off in the way they handle queries
[06:21] Pxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: yea
[06:21] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: and there is no need for a Mod to shout at people, in CAPS, for a minor offence
[06:21] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: in Group, or im IM
[06:21] Pxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: mew-smile-emoji
[06:22] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: snapping has become the rule
[06:22] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: and people got tired of being snapped at
[06:22] Pxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: yep
They're so not kidding. It gets demeaning and demoralizing after a while, and makes me not want to keep the group window open when it pops open. And at that point, why am I in the group if I'm literally ignoring the reason it exists in the first place--posting MMs and stores with gifts to go get?
[06:22] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: personally I am bored to the point I close the window...
[06:22] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: they are doing there job
[06:22] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: bothered not bored
[06:23] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Lxxx] you are2 years old
[06:23] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Rxxx], you are doing a lot of work, you keep us informed, you are grea6t, and no offence meant personally, but please take a look at what we have said. This Group is hardening, losing it's fun and friendly atmosphere, and that is bad news for everyone
[06:23] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: so what
[06:23] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: you have no idea of how things were here before
[06:23] Sxxx Ixxxx: Snapping is usually a sign of stress ...I do it RL when stress levels go up. Do Mods get holidays or stress relief day off ? mew-smile-emoji
[06:23] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: i watch my groups
[06:23] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: mayb it is time I should leave
I would never suggest a particular mod leave a group where they're doing valuable work, but...maybe you should.
[06:23] Pxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: lol
[06:23] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: let's put this this other way
[06:23] axxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: HUGS, [Rxxx]
[06:23] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: 3 years ago mods were not stressed and didn't snap at people....
[06:24] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: no
[06:24] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Rxxx], you are takingthis personally, and you feel under attack
[06:24] Sxxx Ixxxx: We love [Rxxx]!
[06:24] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: hugs and cookies to everyone, I had enough of this drama and I'll better close this window before I say more
And we'll stop here, to go on to the next part.

Scenes from a Chat: Explosions and Exits edition (part 2)

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We pick up where we were in yesterday's edition.
[06:24] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Tkea a step back, put yourself in our shoes, and see if there is something not-too-right going on
[06:25] lxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Rxxx] you know I have nothing against you... (saying this for those who might think it's personal)
[06:25] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: yes I feel under attack. And I feel the mods are attacked too. Do you have any idea what I do every singl day? And do you also know I get nothing for doing that? No gifts, no L$, just a lot of ppl shouting and complaining
You'd probably get far less yelling and screaming if you had sane moderators, applied the rules consistently, maintained a visible list of banned stores so people wouldn't get in trouble for posting them, and deal with drama rationally. Y'know, just FYI.
[06:25] Pxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: it would be good to go back like old days thats just me
[06:25] uxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: thank you board helpers for the Elena sweater from yesterdays MM :)
[06:25] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I am sorry for that "chat flood" as some people would call it, but I as you saw, I am not the only one who feels this way
[06:26] hxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: The fact that we are comfortable efven voicing this to you, [Rxxx], I think is evidence that people feel safe with you. But there are one orr two other very active mods who, if they are online, I do not feel safe speaking at all anymore.
Ms. D comes immediately to mind.
[06:26] lxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: you all nechange that subjected to
[06:26] Mxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: someone needs good S*x
[06:26] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I know what it feels like, [Rxxx]. I have been a Mod in big Groups, and I have lef6t after a nervous breakdown. I do not want you to have a nervous breakdown or leave
[06:27] hxxxxxxxxxxx: Please stay, [Rxxx], we need you. We need even handed modding.
[06:27] axxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: *takes a cookie* Well, I were MOD over 3 years ago and attacks existed always, but as I'm usually have been laughing of them was not a big deal...BTW what am I missing?
[06:28] sxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Oh [Rxxx]! You and my family and friends got so many wonderful hints from you. You are doing a marvellous job!
That's a bit of ego-stroking I don't think the chat needed.
[06:28] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Axxxxx,] Someone started saying that the tone of the Group was getting harder, some Mods were getting real uptight and insulting
[06:28] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: and it snowballed from there
[06:29] lxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: hey [rxxxxxxxx] i and my friends think you are doing a really great job
[06:29] axxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I see...the Kindergarten has opened early today...
Condescending.
[06:29] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I am sure some people will regard that as an insult
[06:30] hxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Well, I've said what I wanted to say. Thank you ffor allowing us to communicate this.
[06:30] axxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Only the not mature part
[06:30] Jxx Rxxxxx: You know what is sad? That people who feel offended by mods, never ever want to do the job mods do. Mods do it to protect the group, and my idea is that whenever you don't like what they do, either close chat or leave the group. I personally don't agree with all the rules this group has, but by joining I accepted the rules, and whenever I get told for a mistake, it is a learning point. Mods do rarely shout (CAPS), only if the bold is broken. So please people, it is easy.....take it or leave it I'd say.
Which is why I don't make a scene in this group. One, there are good moderators here, and with all the rules changes and other confusion, it's hard to do a steady job and keep one's head straight. That being said, though, I've been a moderator in other groups, both SL and RL, and yeah, if it's causing this much divisiveness and controversy, either the mods getting yelled at the most need to take a break and decompress, or even step down and be replaced as group mods.
[06:30] lxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: then they should stop acting like children
They should. Moderation doesn't mean spank first, question later. It means consider each situation and make reasonable decisions.
[06:30] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: For 7 years I have been here, Mods have been targets for complaints, sure. But within the last 6 months, the way we feel about some Mods has been less and less complimebntary
[06:31] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: if you have problems with MODs it is very strange that I did not get ONE complaint with explanation in my IM ....which is something I would do if I was insulted or treated bad by a MOD or CSR. But that is just me. Today is the first time I heard this...so? What am I missing? No one complaining?
I find this both incredibly disingenuous, as well as impossible. You had to have heard complaints. They've been OBVIOUS, both in main group chat, and in IMs to mods. Now, maybe YOU aren't hearing from the mods people have issues with, and in that case, that's their fault in not informing you. But you SHOULD be informed, and moreover, I think you HAVE been informed, and you're just being deceptive.
[06:31] Pxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: weil back in 2014 it was much better [rxxx] i have lots of types of sickness its hard in my real life i dont get out very much and anyone in the group back then lots was happy things have done bad sure new shops but [rxxx] we dont want you to go out of sl
[06:32] lxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [rxxx]
[06:32] yxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Probably modern times are more stressful. to everyone.
[06:32] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Not leaving until I make Management aware of how this Group I loved and still love has changed, and is cahnging in the wrong direction, sorry, but someone has to say it
[06:32] axxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: How about if we just change the subject and try to talking about something pleasant? Just a suggestion...
[06:33] Sxxx Ixxxx: Yes! Whoever has an issue ..write a respectful note to [Rxxx]. I am sure she will adrress the issue :) and write a note when you calm down.
I'm not saying Ms. R wouldn't react rationally, but...from previous experiences in other groups with mods gone haywire, they generally boot first and block later, and second, I've argued with Ms. R before, and she's...let's say "stubborn", shall we? Because "pigheaded" is not complimentary.
[06:33] Pxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: hey [rxxx] remember me
Is this a "Notice me, senpai!" moment?
[06:33] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: so and why did you not tell me that in IM but choose to vent it in this chat?
[06:33] Mxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: who made computers .. sighs***
[06:34] mxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Come on people. We all have stress at times. Stop beating people about the head. Mods are there to moderate. Bold is used to stick out from the normal chat. It's not shouting in the true sense.
[06:34] Pxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: i have beedn watching
Beedn watching?
[06:34] Pxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: been watching this chat
Ah. Okay.
[06:35] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I was talking about using CAPS for shouting, and that Mod was bolded so did not need caps to be recognised as such
[06:35] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: again: if I would have problems with anyone I would tell the owner. In im so he or she could do something about it
[06:35] Mxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: hands over a jug of martini to everyone **
[06:35] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: but as I did not get ANY IM nor note...this is rally a very cold shower
I think at this point I had to dive under the desk to find my jaw, because it had finally dropped to the floor. Either Ms. R is completely blind to the controversy that's been plaguing this group, for the last two years at least, or she's living so comfortably in Denial that she's got a little herb garden next to the thatched cottage, and knows the best place to fish in the local river. Because it is OBVIOUS at this point. It is STAGGERINGLY obvious.
[06:35] mxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: They need happy pills.
[06:35] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I sent [Exxxx] a Notecard 2 days ago. [Exxxx] is Owner. No answer
[06:35] mxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: mew-smile-emoji
[06:36] bxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: sneaks in, steals the jug of martini and gulps the whole thing.
[06:36] rxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx peeks in as i log in... shakes my head... and pokes my head back out and goes to shopping
[06:36] mxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: some people dont get on daily
[06:36] Pxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [rxxx] you have help me a lot with mm boards
[06:36] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Rxxx] is very helpful, yes
[06:36] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Rxxx] works hard, yes
[06:36] Sxxx Ixxxx: Excellent point, [Rxxx].
[06:36] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: I am an owner, and [Exxxx] is almost never online, I run this group mainly on my own
So let's ask this. Is the real problem Ms. D and the other newer mods, or does it lead from the head down? Namely, you?
[06:36] mxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Then send another. We all have real lives to lead.
[06:37] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: It has no use to send [Exxxx] anything nor [Hxxxx] as they are almost never here
See, and that's another thing. If the group owners are no longer paying attention, then THAT needs to go into the group description. "Do not contact [E] or [H] with concerns, contact [R] or [D] instead." How hard is that?
[06:37] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: but there is something rotten in ... Shakespeare Denmark... and I do not want it to go unnoticed. This Group does not deserve to die this way
[06:37] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: and this is the end of this discussion. My mom always said: if you do not have anything nice to say, say nothing.
[06:37] rxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: wait... this group is dying?
No, it might be better if it was. It's just a lot of discontentment and mods yelling at group members when they violate rules that again, WE HAVE NO WAY OF KNOWING, because THE MODS WON'T TELL US.
[06:38] Pxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: then everyone should tell [rxxx] they are sorry
Never happening. If she truly has NEVER, not ONE SINGLE TIME, heard any hint of this, then it's high time she learned how badly managed, toxic, and insufferable the group has become. No apology to her will help that. Possibly an apology to the group members might.
[06:38] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: no just me [Axxxx]
[06:38] rxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: wait.. what????
[06:39] Pxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: read for yourself
[06:39] Mxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: passes white rose to everyone *
[06:39] rxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: i came in to just seeing [Rxxx] saying something about should have mentioned it in IMs and something about shouting.. so i is confused
It's mainly, Mm. C is tired of trying to bring up these issues privately, in IMs, with people who purportedly own this group and never answer, so there were complaints aired in public. From my perspective, entirely valid ones. And of course, the mods are getting snippy about hearing about the problems THEY cause.
[06:41] Mxxx Fxxxxxxxx: some people it is there style of communication they do not mean to appear snappy, it is hard to communicate in text only, you do not get the voice tones and the facial expressions something that may seem jokey and fun said in voice face to face , it can come across as rude when not intended
[06:41] mxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: So true.
[06:42] Mxxx Fxxxxxxxx: that is how i look at things anyway, and add also that for many english is not there first language

[06:43] axxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I have been away for several weeks for RL questions, what did I missed beside of all Halloween stuff? Well, if you've been paying attention, nothing. These are problems that have been mounting for at least six months directly, and two years generally.
[06:43] uxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Exx], you pinpoint something important there
[06:43] mxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Which a lot of people don't take into consideration.
[06:43] rxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Drama here... drama there... lots of good sales...
[06:44] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: ok ND of it or I will close chat
[06:44] Mxxx Fxxxxxxxx: so any things to slap
[06:44] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: END even (there is something living under my E key
[06:44] Mxxx Fxxxxxxxx: and i dont mean me ducks
[06:45] uxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: it is something I myself been struggling with. because english isn't my first language it can sometimes come off as if I am being rude or snappy even that was not my intention. just how we talk where I am from. being yelled at then is hurting Mm. C sent me an additional card titled "Our wonderful [group] Mod made me sick...
[16:47] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Hello.
[16:47] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: How are you?
[16:48] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: What now ?
[16:48] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: in a bad mood
[16:48] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Well, I guess so!
To be fair, this was RIGHT after everything that happened above.
[16:48] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: You are giving a member problems aboiut a MOD/owner decision about a shoppe?
[16:50] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Got that wrong. I was telling her that Timeless _is_ next to a mall
I believe the word you're looking for is, it is not next to a mall. Unless Xzavia's last location was also a mall.
[16:51] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Ahhh.... well, thank you, [Cxxxxxxx].
And really, everything should have stopped there. But no, Ms. D went on.
[16:51] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I think [kxxxx] is a little confused between Timeless and USC
[16:52] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: USC, of course, is not a mall, because it does not have shppes outside, or does it ?
[16:53] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: No, it doesn't. He owns all those buildings and their contents. USC is easy peasy for SLFO's rules.
It is? Because while he owned all the buildings in the last place, he rented several out to other makers. As well as renting out booths in his main building to other makers. Doesn't he also do that now?
[16:54] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: He owns that one ?
[16:54] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Mxxxxxxx Oxxxxxxx: Several packs of old cards textures and more freebies to find NGN [store name given, which I don't have because it's just the sim name and locations]
[16:55] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: He own the place, yes, but someone else trades there. That seems to be a "Mall" just llike Timeless is
Exactly.
[16:55] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Well, it does not constitute a mall, [Cxxx]? Are you just looking to fight?
I guess, only if you're in the wrong here. Which...you are.
[16:55] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: O here we go
You sound like Mm. C has been hassling you for days over this, or something. That hasn't happened.
[16:55] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: You called me, kiddo
[16:56] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: You are arguing about TEXTURE places with me? Really?
That is unbelievably dismissive.
[16:56] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: You want to be blind and apply the rules your way, go bark in Group
Rude? Probably. Fed up with the inconsistent application of rules in this group? Absolutely.
[16:56] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Keep going... pour it allllll out...
[16:56] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: go on.... I encourage you.
Gosh, dial back the sarcasm a tad. Mm. C DID NOT IM you first. Crank down the hostility.
[16:56] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: the "Mall" label was never intended to penalise places thike this. This is a quality mall
[16:57] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: The original reason for banning malls dates back more than 7 years, and was meant to disqualify crappy malls selling rubbish
[16:57] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: You are now applying the letter of old rules, noit the spirit
[16:57] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Well, there is something this situation at USC that does constitute it as a mall... not what you were looking at... but thank you.
[16:58] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: and old hands here at laughing at you and shaking their heads in disbelief at the way you apply the rules
[16:59] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: And as far as [Mxxxxxx]'s post was concerned, being SHOUTED AT in Group for reposting something I sent to her, that is not acceptable
No. It's really not. And it's that level of tinpot dictatorship we're objecting to at present.
[17:00] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Keep going, [Cxxxxxxx], pour it ALL out, honey...
Oh, my gods, the condescension levels. Drink some chamomile tea, and lay down for two weeks, you'll be a better person for it.
[17:00] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Maybe you should take braeks, and consider the effect you had on the poor girl, when she was trying to contribute... only to be told off, IN 2 LINES OF CAPS that she was stealing and cheating
[17:01] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: but of course, tell me you have the right, and shouting at people is a Mod's job
[17:02] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: It is lack of empathy, bad maners and slander
[17:03] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: And you never get to the human level when "explaining" why a plaxce is banned
Not these days, no. They used to. Not now.
[17:03] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Two Moon Garden, Mall with resellers ?
[17:03] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Show me the resellers
[17:03] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Show me the "Mall" there
[17:03] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I dare you
[17:03] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Keep going.... come on... do it, honey...
Wow, are you a bitch.
[17:04] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: You do not deserve any more
[17:04] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: OOoo I have plenty.
[17:04] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: LOts and lots.
Of attitude and misplaced condescension? This, I believe.
[17:08] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Last bit from me, that you will laugh at I am sure is this : This Mod job has you stressed out so hard that you do not realise how you appear in Group. Maybe you should have a look at what you do, how you do it, and the impact it has on Group members and the Group itself
[17:09] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: YaY! More!
[17:09] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: *clapping*
Jesus Christ, get a grip on yourself.
[17:09] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Stress creeps up on you, you get comfortable with it, you think you are doing a great job at discuipline and motivation... and the blinkers keep narrowing until you blow a fuse
[17:10] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Please keep on mocking me,that is very dignified of you squinting-face-grin-emojo
[17:10] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: mew-smile-emoji
[17:10] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I am all for you expressing your feelings.
You are lying so hard through all the teeth you have.
[17:10] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I am supportive of that, [Cxxxxxxx].
The hell you are.
[17:11] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: only to [p*ss] on them, the way I see it
[17:13] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: At least " Well, there is something this situation at USC that does constitute it as a mall..." was a step in the right direction
[17:14] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: and when you apologise for SHOUTING at [Mxxxxxx] for one of her rare participation, then you might realise you are overdoing the flame throwing just a little tad
Precisely.

Mm. C says at the end of that card that Ms. D (legacy name Ms. H) never answered. Not surprised.

Then came the third card.
[13:51] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I sent that Notecard to [Rxxx] earlier
Ms. R being the chief mod at this group at present.
[13:52] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: She read it...
[13:52] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx:

[06:49] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Please feel free to Notecard me in answer to my Notecard
[06:50] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: sure
[07:07] Rxxxxxxxx Rxxxx: it is against the ToS to chare IMs with others
[13:53] Emilly Orr: Technically, that's true.
[13:53] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: and that is where we are on the subject of that second Notecard I sent you. I think she may well decide not to look at it because the content is against ToS... great excuse
So, here's the thing. The Terms of Service in SL clearly state that chat captures in Second Life cannot be saved and passed to other users, as it constitutes a privacy violation.

However, everyone does it, including the Lindens. It's a CYA measure for the most part.
[13:53] Emilly Orr: And there are estate owners who refuse to read notecarded conversations due to that reason. However, on the ground I'd say it's more a case by case basis, and sometimes, people need to know what X person said about Y.
[13:54] Emilly Orr nods
[13:54] Emilly Orr: Wouldn't surprise me
[13:54] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Yes Your Honour, we can not show the video of my client murdering those children, because it was not obtained legaly...
[13:54] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: So client goes free
[13:54] Emilly Orr: Actually, that's happened in a few cases. The law is tricky and occasionally unfair.
[13:55] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Especially when it is twisted by spin doctors, and unfortunately, yes, it does happen
[13:56] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: But, but, but... It was a Group related IM...
[13:56] Cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Opened by a Group Mod... so...
[13:57] Emilly Orr: And you were communicating what was said to another mod, because you felt she needed to know.
[13:57] Emilly Orr: That's logical.
But, as everyone in the group has learned by now, no moderator is interested in listening to sense anymore, for whatever reason.

Yeah, there's going to be one more part to this.

but I'd have to lay dead so long that I wouldn't have a chance to come back here and tell my friends (part 3)

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And continued from the last two days of chats. This was an IM thread sent to me from someone else, that sparked the investigation into the first two entries..
[11:44] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Hello Emily... Are you free for a couple of questions about [the group in question] ?
[11:44] Emilly Orr: Sure, what's up?
[11:44] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx is really annoyed at the trend things are following in [the group in question]
[11:44] Emilly Orr: They have grown much more restrictive over the past few months.
[11:45] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Would like to know how an "old hand" like you feels about it
[11:45] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Right, agree
[11:46] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Just restrictive... about the places that can be posted and such ?
[11:46] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: or would you say their attitude also hardened to the point of rudeness ?
[11:46] Emilly Orr: I still find the group worthwhile to belong to, but I will admit, the mounting pressure of more and more rules is making me unwilling to chat in the group.
[11:47] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Feel free to "No comment", no problem
[11:47] Emilly Orr: I honestly think it's a backlash reaction to the rival group.
[11:47] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: OK, same here... I don't feel like posting and be rejected nastily
[11:47] Emilly Orr nods
[11:47] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: rival Group ?
[11:48] Emilly Orr: What I seem to be running into most often are things that were okay two months ago, but that aren't now, and the group description hasn't been updated with the change. Like being unable to mention any stores that are not direct affiliates of [the group in question].
[11:48] Emilly Orr: Okay, so this would be maybe...four months back? There was a huge drama bomb, a lot of group members got angry, lots of arguing.
[11:49] Emilly Orr: Basically boiled down to "You're not the boss of me!""Oh yes we are!"
[11:49] Emilly Orr: So, they left the group in a huff and formed their own.
[11:49] Emilly Orr: It has the [group name] in their group title, and the F word. They're searchable. But they also seem bitter beyond all reason, so I have no interest in joining them.
[11:49] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Ah... Not the first time a breakaway Group erupts from a confrontation though ?
[11:50] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx wants the name of that Group winky-face-smiley
[11:50] Emilly Orr: No, but this is the one they're actively watching. They have stealth mods who've joined that group who watch who joins, and if they're also in [the group in question], they get booted from [the group in question].
[11:50] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: There was a rather big drama bomb a few hours ago, [Cxxxxxxx] exploded, lol
[11:51] Emilly Orr: I missed it!
[11:51] Emilly Orr: Do you know why?
[11:51] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I am in a couple of splinters, no direct action so far (not doubting what you say, just saying)
[11:51] Emilly Orr nods
[11:52] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Rudeness of a certain [group mod that starts with a D], and a Notecard to [Exxxx] about it not being answered is what I got
[11:52] Emilly Orr: Yeah, [Dxxxxx]'s got her feathers ruffled a lot.
[11:52] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: May I suggest... Notecard [Cxxxxxxx], he will be happy to send you the log mew-smile-emoji
[11:52] Emilly Orr: Okay.
And that was the first two entries I did on this topic.
[11:53] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I recognised your name from somewhere, Group or from someone who mentioned you... There is respect attached to it in my mind, so that is why I asked you
[11:53] Emilly Orr: Thanks.
[11:54] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Telling it like it is mew-smile-emoji
I've been in SL a long time. I guess being heard of is a good thing?
[11:54] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [another shopping and freebies group] is one of the latest splinter, and 2 of their Mods are also [group name] members... so far
[11:55] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: so maybe you were thinking about an other Group ?
[11:56] Emilly Orr: No, I know I'm thinking of another group, because I remember seeing it. But "f*ck", or any variations of, aren't showing anything in search. So either they changed their name, or SL's blocking them because of the profanity.
[12:01] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I remember seeing that name, yes... started 2 years ago ?
[12:02] Emilly Orr: Maybe? I remember it as being four months back, but it could have existed before. I just know there was a huge overreaction over it three or four months ago
[12:04] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: or could be yet an other Group with a similar name
[12:06] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: ""f*ck", or any variations of, aren't showing anything in search" not for me either, but I saw something like that there not so long ago (6 weeks maybe
[12:06] Emilly Orr nods
[12:07] Emilly Orr: I don't know more beyond that, because like I said, they seemed a bit too bitter to join just to get access to adult/BDSM MM boards and gifts.
[12:11] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Mmmm... That was the bone of contention, Adult stuff
[12:11] Emilly Orr: Yeah. It's been a recurring topic.
And look. I'm not even going to get into that one. Groups have the absolute right to set rules for their groups. I think our main communal complaint is they need to STATE THOSE RULES CLEARLY, and in fact, BE OPEN ABOUT WHAT THOSE RULES ARE. And a list of banned stores would be nice, because otherwise, new members never know when they're at a place that isn't allowed to be posted, and right now, they're getting yelled at FOR posting, and a lot of them end up leaving. This does not foster community in any way.
12:12] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Haute Goth Shoppers is not into that as a main topic, although there is no rule against those places... I guess common sense would direct members. It is not all Goth either... just general (no, not advertising, lol, just giving some info :P )
[12:13] Emilly Orr: The unable to mention store names, though, that's new. And a couple days ago I learned that if someone posts X store, and there is discussion of X store, that is "spamming" the group--even if there's only one post that features the MM or group gift or whatever.
[12:14] Emilly Orr: I have nothing against goth, I'm in Sinister. :D
[12:15] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Yes, tightening of the rules that are not even rules. If you say anything about a banned place, they consider you are posting it :(
[12:15] Emilly Orr: Yep
[12:15] Emilly Orr: Which is...very odd
[12:17] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: but it is part of a worrying tightening of (non written) rules
[12:18] Emilly Orr: And I'd have--well, I'd have a few problems, but--fewer problems if they actually DID write them down.
[12:19] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx:
To [[Rxxx] : [Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx]: And I'd have--well, I'd have a few problems, but--fewer problems if they actually DID write them down.
[12:19] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Someone mentioned the idea of expanding the Profile text space to a web page / blog post or link to get a Notecard which could hold much more information, and solve the problem of laconic rules (as in shortened due to space)
[12:19] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Answer : the rules are in short in the profile of the group, Most group members don't even bother to read them.
Not surprising in the least.
[12:20] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: ... If you are not sure just ask in chat for a mod and they can always help you out
[12:20] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Right. That means ask every time, given the speed of change, and wait up to 10 minutes (official wait time given by Rood to a friend for such cases) before you IM an other Mod
[12:20] Emilly Orr: Right. Which works if a) people ask and b) people read. Plus, it doesn't count the new members who don't know anything, thus won't know anything that isn't in the rules.
[12:21] Emilly Orr: Or just hassle Dragon in IM and get bounced. That's happened now and again.
[12:21] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: And try and fly throug with the rules in Profile... not possible
[12:22] Emilly Orr: And apologize a lot.
[12:22] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Mmmm... A mass movement to flood Mod's IMs with innocent query after innocent query until someone notices the peasants are getting restless winky-face-smiley
[12:22] Emilly Orr: Well, that would work if they cared to work with their members...and they don't.
[12:22] Emilly Orr: Which is not purely cynical, it's just observation. They think they're in the right, so why should they change?
[12:23] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: True. Any idea for improvement, suggestions, gets booted by Not Possible, Don't need that, Just ask frowning-emoji-shadowed
[12:23] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: They are in denial, and on a power trip... opinion from "[Mxxxxx] surveyed members"winky-face-smiley
[12:24] Emilly Orr nods
[12:24] Emilly Orr: Pretty much
[12:25] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: and mentionong in Group that members feel bad when a mod tells them of is... Attacking the Owner
[12:25] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: So yes, you are getting added to dem [Mxxxxx] statistics (anonymously, lol) as a WTF is going on, me not happy bunny
[12:26] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [rival group name with 'sucks' in the name]!
[12:26] Emilly Orr: Power trip, I'd agree with.
[12:26] Emilly Orr: They did change their name!
[12:26] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Sl Sucks MoNkEy Balls
[12:26] Emilly Orr: ....or not
[12:26] Emilly Orr: Whoa
[12:27] Emilly Orr: More than one group?
[12:27] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I tried sucks instead of f*cks
[12:27] Emilly Orr: Though SL sucks, that could be just SL in general :D
[12:28] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: First one may have been 2 years ago
[12:28] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Second one seems sl only, not [group name in question], sorry
[12:29] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: There are other splinters, but not using [group name in question] in mame
[12:29] Emilly Orr: The first one does seem to have the same founder as the profane group I remember
[12:31] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: My memory is not fantastic... but I have seen it before as Group owner, I think, not recently [Bxxxxxx Cxxxxx]
[12:31] Emilly Orr nods
[12:32] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: So maybe some Group disappeared or was banned
[12:33] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: FO! SL frees & offers!
[12:34] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: An other Group by [Bxxxxxx Cxxxxx], that one sounds like the one I remembered
[12:34] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: So you were right about the F winky-face-smiley
[12:35] Emilly Orr nods.
[12:35] Emilly Orr: And that's the one I think they're watching. That's the one they personally have a vendetta against.
[12:37] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: 765 members... They did grow quite nicely, lol, but for [group name in question] to be scared of them ?
[12:38] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: There is an other one
[12:38] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Oh no... not again !
[12:38] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: G.I.F.T. - Get It Free Today
[12:39] Emilly Orr: I think it's less they're scared of them, and more...it's a "How dare" situation. It's like, they don't specifically mind other freebs and offers groups, but if they're established because they think [group name in question] sucks, they get personally affronted by that.
[12:39] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: A good point there is quality : Please keep posts for quality items only
[12:40] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: OK, I understand, and Thou Shall Not Mock Das Fuhrer sounds about right for a red clog wearer
[12:40] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Rxxx] = Red in Dutch. She is Dutch, so clog wearer
[12:40] Emilly Orr: Oh, [Rxxx] and repression go waaaaay back.
[12:41] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Standing joke : To post safely in [group name in question], wear fireproof clothing and a hard hat against flying glogs
[12:41] Emilly Orr: Part of the reason she set up the group is because she hated websites giving away pictures of hunt items, including hunts she ran, so people could pick and choose what items they wanted from a given hunt.
[12:41] Emilly Orr: She also hates people offering hints with a passion. Apparently, you should do the hunt start to finish, find everything with zero assistance, and get every hunt gift. Because "it's a process".
[12:42] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I have seen people mentioning "no hunt hints or else", but not sure it waas [group name in question]... Thank you for the info
[12:43] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: "Part of the reason she set up the group"... she tightened the Group ?
[12:43] Emilly Orr: No, she created the group.
[12:44] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [group name in question] ?
[12:44] Emilly Orr: I thought so
[12:44] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: you kinda confused me
[12:44] Emilly Orr: Maybe she just runs the mods
[12:44] Emilly Orr: She used to list her hunts with the FabFree blog, and she stalked away in a huff when they started posting hunt pictures and hints from her hunts.
[12:44] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Nooo... Group Creators were [Exxxx Gxxxxxxx] and a few others, amongst which [Hxxxx] (still there) and [Axxxxx Vxxxxxxxx].
[12:44] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Right
[12:45] Emilly Orr: She even yelled at me once when I wrote a blog entry on one of her hunts, because I'd "encouraged" people to "do the hunt wrong".
[12:45] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Axxxxx] used to run the Group and oversee the Mods. [Rxxx] was a Mod ... started maybe 3-4 years ago
[12:45] Emilly Orr: Okay, then the group existed, she became a mod.
[12:45] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Now [Rxxx] has been made an Owner, and oversees the Group business / complaints and Mods
I think that's where the confusion came in, by the time I joined the group, Ms. R was already listed as a group owner.
[12:47] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Creators / founders... and [Rxxx] knows that, she said so in IM
[12:47] Emilly Orr nods
[12:48] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: There is a whole series of books to be written about [group name in question] history, lol, and those who know a lot about it still do not have the whole picture
[12:49] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I sure have huuuge gaps myself winky-face-smiley
[12:50] Emilly Orr would agree
[12:50] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Who is she ???
[12:50] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: winky-face-smiley
[12:50] Emilly Orr grins
[12:51] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Did you know the Group's main language was not English when it was founded ?
[12:52] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: There is a doubt about whether it was Portuguese or Spanish
[12:52] Emilly Orr: Interesting. I'd be willing to bet Portuguese, though.
[12:52] Emilly Orr: Just because there are more Brazilians in SL.
[12:53] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: True
[12:53] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Although [Exxxx] does not say she speaks Portuguese, but Spanish, but Portuguese sounds right
[12:53] Emilly Orr nods
[13:00] Mxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Anyway, I better go, after thanking you for you answers, and for a fun and informative chat mew-smile-emoji
[13:01] Emilly Orr: You're welcome!
And that is that...for now. But I'm fairly sure drama will explode again. This particular group attracts it, and largely through their own actions.

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Various sights along the way.

jump-ropes1

I can't make these things up. This was in a hair store.

jump-ropes2

I said this to a friend:
[12:05 PM] Emilly: This is...this is a lot.
[12:06 PM] Emilly: So I realize the first 'name' I saw was from one of her groups, but it says "heart-balloon BXXXXXX heart-balloon"
[12:06 PM] Emilly: That's followed by her display name, "Pxxxxx Txxxxx".
[12:07 PM] Emilly: Which is followed by her legacy name, "pxxxxxx", and you know me and My Little Pony references.
[12:07 PM] Emilly: I can't even make out the SL bio pic, it's just...something...wrapped in a quilt.
[12:07 PM] Emilly: The SL bio? "fun free and love to chat with all kinds of people. Let loose have fun and just loving my life first and second. love to draw, read, cook, and bake and also love my daddy dom and sub partner heart-balloon. "
[12:08 PM] Emilly: it's not the BDSM angle that disturbs, it's everything before that PLUS the lack of punctuation.
[12:08 PM] Emilly: She's got a titler that says "pat my noggin, I've been headpatted 581 times heart-balloon"
[12:08 PM] Emilly: Not on your life.
[12:10 PM] Emilly: She has no picks, no FL info, she's wearing a bunch of jump ropes with pink handles wrapped around all her joints in sequence, and her expression--because yes, I had to get pictures of this--is the expression of someone repeatedly struck with a mallet.
[12:13 PM] Emilly: See what I mean?
I mean, yes, technically the chicklet is entirely covered between the flowers and the ropes, but...to me, it's still shopping naked. And it's not even a skin store. It's hair by all that's holy. NO ONE needs to be nude to shop for hair.

square-jaw-girl1

Then there was this girl. I was again shopping, running down stops of a sales list. I am assuming that the head distortion is due to a mesh head? Even though with most mesh head wearers, I usually just see the avatar as headless with a floating brain, or floating eyes, before the head rezzes in?

square-jaw-girl2

That is some serious booty, though. More angular than rounded, but still.

square-jaw-girl3

But I freely admit, I stood and watched, hoping she'd rez in before I had to leave. And note, the jelly girl behind her rezzed in clothing before she ever did. I grant you, I need a new graphics card, so I am having rez issues right and left, but even with that I could visibly see stockings, clothing, heels on the other girl, and...nothing on the maiden with the squared jaw. Bizarre.

Finally, on yet another shopping excursions, this lass.
crystal-tiara1

The tiara's a bit extra, but hey, if it makes her happy.

crystal-tiara2

That wasn't my main question though. Question one: with just the tiniest bit of effort, she could have normal-sized human hands. They're so close to not being tiny little baby hands. Why doesn't she see that? Question two: why is the front of her dress and the back of her dress such drastically different shades?

crystal-tiara3

And of course, the third question, and the most important one in my opinion: she has her physics cranked up so high that every time she moves, her breasts move in opposite directions, which is unnerving. Why does she do that? Again, just a small adjustment, and they'd bounce together like real breasts do. Why doesn't she fix that?

across the open prairie and the drifting snow, cold as the cold wind blows

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Someone always has to beg...
[10:18] gxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: can someone help me with 30L
First: no. Second: no. Third: go away.
[10:18] Emilly Orr: Yes. Open in-world search. Type in 'Employment'.
[10:20] Lxxx Cxxxxxxx: You can get 30L by adding 10L to 20L or 15L to 15L. I hope that was illuminating.
[10:20] Emilly Orr: That also works.
[10:20] dxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: that was harsh side-eye-emoji
[10:20] Emilly Orr: But deserved.
[10:20] hxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxx: I gave her 30L
Well, that was dumb.
[10"21] Emilly Orr: Never encourage the beggars.
[10:21] mxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: more fool you [rxxxxx], i bet they have asked at least another 30 people
If not far more.
[10:22] sxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: sorry i don't have water right now
I hear you. Kind of in that state myself.
[10:22] sxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: i seen a lot of those in the past week
They're a perpetual hazard.
[10:22] hxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxx: Well... if so there richer then me but 30L to help someone buy somthing at least she can get something
See, I get that you're naive, alarmingly so for SL in the age of Linden spammers, but even with that supposedly genuine desire to help, you're not being smart. If you *really* wanted to help her out, then IM her, ask what she needs. Buy that on MP and send it to her. That way, you're not giving a direct Linden gift, and if you find out her motivations. Because if she says 'Oh, no, I really don't need that dress/pixel baby food/car I told you I needed, I just want the 30L"...then you know you're being scammed. End of conversation.

This one didn't even bother to coach it in an "I need a thing" format. She just baldly asked for 30L. No reason given. Most definitely a spammer.
[10:22] Ixxxxx Bxxxxxx: No one needs to ask for 30l, Governor Linden will give it to you for playing games, feeding someone begging alt doesn't help anyone
[10:23] mxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: a week old avatar begging for money .. nah dont think so
Yeah, I'm very dubious as well.
[10:23] Emilly Orr: Nah, it's a spammer.
[10:23] sxxxxx Hxxxxxxxxx: its a bot
[10:23] gxxxxxx Rxxxxxxxx: And with lots of groups where to beg
[10:23] mxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: of course it is
[10:23] xxxxx Hxxxxxxxxx: true
[10:23] Ixxxxx Bxxxxxx: and sadly, in 2019, someone still fell for it and gave them 30cents
No one ever said people weren't allowed to be dumb on the internet.
[10:23] Ixxxxx Bxxxxxx: this is why it keeps happening
Yep.
[10:23] Kxxxxx Mxxxxxxx: if i wanted to borrow money it would be from a friend...not spam a group for it
[10:24] kxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: a bad troll attempt. Have to come up with something better then that line.
[10:25] Dxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: @ [Rxxxxx]: Well i am sure you have a kinded heart and you did it because you are nice and want everyone around you to be happy. but i am afraid too, it was just a money caller to get some other alts richer.. anyway.. thank you for your nice giving
Nope. She doesn't get credit for being nice here. She fell for it. She's not helping anyone but whatever group of bots and hacked accounts in China or Ukraine is running this week, trying various angles to get Lindens.

Maybe this is why Tilia's here. To cut down on Linden spammers, due to the inflexible rules of having to give RL info and/or banking info if an avatar is pulling funds from Second Life.

And note: I'm not saying no one should help anyone, ever. I'm really not. Someone genuinely needs our help, and we can give that help, we should. It's a big world, but we learn more from it with open hearts and extended hands. But. If it acts like a spammer, reads like a spammer, and begs like a spammer? It's a spammer. Ignore them and move on.
[10:29] Mxxxxxxxxx Nxxx: I think it's the rare one isn't it?
I mean, you'd think people would know by now not to give in. It's not a real person, Ms. R, it's a bot or a spammer in some dingy cubicle farm hitting thousands of groups at a time. Don't encourage them.

Later...
[14:54] Mxxxxxxx Txxxxxxx: Anyone willing to help find a [sh*t]? I contacted the owner of the hair but it might (if ever) take them a while to respond.
[14:55] Pxxxx Hxxxxxxxxxxx: a what?
[14:55] Fxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: find what?
[14:57] Emilly Orr: Beg pardon?
[14:58] Mxxxxxxx Txxxxxxx: a shirt
[14:59] Exxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Whew... I was worried there for a minute...
Me too.

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So, I'm irritated by this. This is currently the Dark Spa at work:

Dark-Spa-revision1

It doesn't look great, no.

This is inside:

Dark-Spa-revision2

I'm still not sold on the purple.

Why, you may ask? Well, I'd willingly tell you, in EXCRUCIATING detail, but as upper management pointed out, even anonymizing conversations I have in most work situations does not really cover things. And is indiscreet. And they're right, I agree.

But.

I HAVE both notecards, both the rant to a fellow Blossom, and the rant to me, and that fellow staffer has their full UUIDs in case they decide to show up and rant again, because we are so over people whining that they can't do what they want on a free sex sim.

PRO TIP, YOU IDIOTS, WE ARE NOT A FREE SEX SIM. "Adult" does not equal "free sex". My gods, there are sims that are rated Adult because they're violent RP sims, where character death occurs. THOSE sims do not equal "free sex" because they're Adult rated, either.

A comment from that fellow Blossom:
[14:02] vxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Now, I refuse to believe that either of them are children. How is it okay to wander into your neighbour's back yard and get nekkies at poolside? And your rationale is that the gate's latch was easily overcome?
[14:03] Emilly Orr: I know!
And that, essentially, is the problem.

So for now, this will be the Dark Spa:

Dark-Spa-revision3

Yeah, I found another brocade that matches things better.

I've sent out the appropriate notices to the House VIP group, and to the staff group, and as mentioned, sent the notecards in question to the sim owner, our Duchess, and the Sakura management, our dear Lynn. And we WILL solve this, but for now, it is VERY frustrating that some people just can't conceive of polite behavior.

We want to be a place people can feel comfortable, where our patrons can relax in discretion and relative security. We want to make our club inviting, warm, and pleasant.

Random naked people "because it's free" and "because it's Adult" does not make the environment inviting, warm, pleasant, or discreet, and I for one am beyond tired of it.

This will change.


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Oh...boy. Here we go.
[16:16] jxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Hello!
Oh, gods. This came with a big, booming male voice gesture shouting "HELLO!". Why. Why was that necessary?

And...this was him:

proposition1

Yes, that censor box does need to be that big. He didn't have just rampant genitalia, he had an uncircumsized log.
[16:17] Emilly Orr: Hi there
[16:17] Emilly Orr: Two years old and you're still shopping naked.
I'd been facing another direction, trying to get things to rez in, and then I'd turned around. First thing through my mind came out of my mouth, but can you blame me? Not only shopping naked; not only shopping naked erect; shopping naked with a foot-long summer sausage at hip level.
[16:18] jxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: how are you beautiful
[16:18] Emilly Orr: Doing well.
I really didn't know what else to say.

proposition2

Right after I snapped this, he jumped on the floor mat behind him and went into pose. I could clearly see that the mat said "forced", so...not interested. I wandered. Ten minutes later, when I'd determined there was nothing suitable for Sakura, I wandered through the bedrooms (I am ever on the search for an Adult bed with rationally named poses), and found him on one of the beds, madly thrusting away into air.

I left.

But after that--and I can only assume he'd IMed originally as I was leaving--came this:
[16:19] exxxxxxx Exxx: hi
[16:19] Emilly Orr: Hello.
Guarded? Why, yes--after the first fellow, do you blame me?
[16:19] exxxxxxx Exxx: how are you
[16:20] Emilly Orr: Doing well.
I was starting to feel like a walking echo chamber.
[16:21] exxxxxxx Exxx: you are alone?
[16:22] Emilly Orr: Well, define 'alone'.
[16:23] Emilly Orr: Do you mean right now, or in general?
That's when he offered to teleport me. To another Adult sim.
[16:23] exxxxxxx Exxx: other place
[16:23] Emilly Orr: And...why would I be going there?
[16:23] exxxxxxx Exxx: for fun
[16:23] Emilly Orr: Oh, in that case, I can send over my rate card.
[16:24] Emilly Orr: But if you're not interested, I perfectly understand.
Of course he wasn't going to hire me. I knew that. Seven years old, no info on his SL page, no FL info or picture, no picks of any kind. Of course he wasn't interested in anything beyond free sex.
[16:24] exxxxxxx Exxx: ok byee
[16:25] Emilly Orr: Enjoy!
Color me unsurprised.

Seriously, this was my look for the day.

proposition3

To me, this doesn't say "Take me, take me now!" All I was doing was shopping around for potential replacement furnishings for the club. I wasn't dressed for the club, and I wasn't dressed to impress. I was dressed for autumn comfort--boots, sweater, argyle wool skirt. My hair was even windblown.

Anyway, that was that. Mr. "I want you for five minutes, ten if you're lucky" never said anything after that, and neither did the log-bearer.

So, more scattered images from Halloween wanderings.

burning-bull

I was honestly looking for a sales sign to see what that store had on offer, when I ran across this. I'm not sure exactly what's going on. Does one ride the burning bull? Does one try to put the fires out? Does one dance before it and try to get it to charge? I have no clue.

modesty-statue-version

Second, sighting of immodest statue on moderate sim. Now, that in itself is not precisely untoward, as by the ToS nudity is allowed as long as there's no sexual activity, or Adult furniture nearby in sight range.

However, I had to fight very hard to take a picture that was as 'figleafed' as I could get it, and if you look carefully, under the male's arms, you're actually still seeing part of his bits. Full on, his bits are erect and visible caged. Both are collared and on leashes. So, while in one sense, they're perfectly legal, for me they do skate that line of what is innocuous nudity, and what is sexual objectification.

It's very well done, don't mistake me. I just headtilted seeing it.

redeux-Halloween-2019

Finally, this is just a pretty picture from Redeux's Halloween event. This is of the entrance, before walking into the event proper, and a ghost drifted by at just the right time. I had to take the picture.

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Ageplay rears its head again! Sort of...
[13:06] Nxxxx Fxxxxxxx: since when are child avs allowed on adult sims
Yeah, so, I've brought this up before, and there has been a (slight) rule change. Before, if the sim was rated Adult, no child avatar was allowed, period. Sims could be (and were) shut down for this happening. Then the change: AS LONG AS there is no adult furniture or animations WITHIN SIGHT RANGE--and that is specific, that works out to about 30-60 meters for most avatars--of the SL child, OR no Adult activity taking place where that SL child is, SL children can now be on Adult sims.

I know, I know, it's a new world, we're all trying to adapt.
[13:07] Nxxxx Fxxxxxxx: i thought that was always a no no
[13:07] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: it is up to the sim owner
[13:07] Nxxxx Fxxxxxxx: its creepy
Oh, I entirely agree. It is very creepy. And, handy tip, if you as an Adult sim owner decide you don't want child avatars on your Adult sim? YOU DON'T HAVE TO. You can say they don't get to come in. Put it down in the land covenant, put it in a notecard that's given out at a main landing spot with the rest of the rules, or just tell SL kids as you're bouncing them into the stratosphere why they're suddenly airborne. Nothing easier.
[13:08] pxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: No, it's perfectly allowed for child avatars to be on adult simulators. They just must not be near or interact with adult content.
[13:08] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: yes
[13:08] mxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Lxxxxx] is correct
[13:08] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: or the sim owner's rule
[13:09] mxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: that too but it's hard to police
That's the other complication. Because no sim owner can be watching their sim 100% of the time, 24/7, and never sleep. Estate managers help, but even they have to sleep at some point.
[13:10] Nxxxx Fxxxxxxx: I remember when the Adult land was opened and it was forbidden.. when did it change.. i may want to rethink sl all together if that is true i cant stand child avs at al and stay on adult sims to be far away from them..
You're not alone, there's a lot of folks who are creeped out by kid avatars. For me, my bias comes directly from having been propositioned, SEVERAL times, by kids in SL, and thank you but no, never going to happen. But reference the rules above. If you stay on Adult sims to remain 'safe' from kids on SL, but you're on an Adult sim with nothing sexual nearby, then yes, kids can traipse through.
[13:10] Emilly Orr: 1. It is technically allowed by the Lindens as long as there is no adult activity taking place, or possible (as in, sex furniture) in their vicinity. 2. That second part makes sim owners verrrrry nervous, so a lot just blanket-ban child avatars from adult sims. 3. It is ALWAYS creepy.
[13:10] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: they got rid of the age verrifcation
[13:10] Emilly Orr: That was about when, yeah.
[13:10] mxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: and they got rid of the Teen SL
[13:11] Nxxxx Fxxxxxxx: gross
The day they announced Teen Grid and the rest of the grid were merging, a lot of us freaked out completely. I was afraid to date ANYONE for a solid year. I have had one experience, already, where a fellow I'd been dating--and sleeping with--for over a year met up with friends when I was with him, and they wished him happy 17th birthday. I'm still shuddering.
[13:11] Emilly Orr: But also keep in mind, the day Zindra opened, one of the most famous child avatars went. There are pictures of McCann dancing with Lindens. No one said anything.
This is true. I still view McCann with suspicion to this day because AT THAT TIME the rules had not been revised, so she went there with crass disregard to the Terms of Service. And the Lindens didn't care. Those are some STAGGERINGLY bad optics.

You can't trust a child avatar who's that willing to throw aside established rules.
[13:11] mxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: as someone who is occastionally a child on SL I recommend copious use of your Derender options when around kids
That's also a good thing to keep in mind. Or mark that "Show friends only" setting under World (in Firestorm), and that way you'll only ever see people you know and already trust.
[13:11] pxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Yep, sim/parcel owner can naturally also define their own rules since they have full choice over who resides on their parcel(s), and they have every right to ban whoever they want on whatever ground, but ToS-wise, it's still fine as long as (1.) of what Emilly said holds - no adult activity, no sex furniture, whatever. Also, age verification never had anything to do with child avatars; kid avatars are almost universally played by adults.
[13:11] Nxxxx Fxxxxxxx: there are famous child avatars?
[13:12] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: yes
[13:12] pxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Yep. Like, uh, Loki.
[13:12] Nxxxx Fxxxxxxx: weird
[13:12] mxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: some people use the height meters to keep kids and other small avis out
Yeah, that's always bugged me, because I am not a tall avatar.
[13:12] pxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Loki Eliot. Escapades is a long running sim that has tons of kids running around and it's even been featured by LL, IIRC.
Leaving his name in because he's a fairly well-known child avatar in SL, and one of the good ones. And yes, this is me talking, the death on all children adult avatar, saying there are good child avatars. I've met them. They really do exist.
[13:12] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: and another that I can think of
[13:13] pxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: And the sim owner runs around as boy.
[13:13] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: well, I was kicked out of a sim for being under 5 ft 10
You aren't the only one.
[13:13] Nxxxx Fxxxxxxx: but you clearly look like a woman
Doesn't seem to matter to some people.
[13:13] Emilly Orr: Loki's one of the good ones. Jimmy Branagh's a good soul. Marianne McCann, well, she's iffy for me now since she did the Zindra visit.
[13:13] Nxxxx Fxxxxxxx: and wtf? 5'10?? i am 5'5 irl that is not short
Wellll...technically it counts as short, as "average" for (at least American) adult females is 5'6". I bring this up below, but it is true.
[13:14] mxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: yup *paw5* shorties unite. Even as an adult I'm often "too short"
[13:14] Sxxxx Kxxxxxxx: i have a dog av that is that short. but, she is just a dog.
[13:14] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: 5 ft 3 RL and SL
[13:15] pxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Sorry if younger looking avatars are not your thing, but do consider 1. there's always spaces free of them, 2. you have the ability to moderate your own content by derendering/blocking, 3. you can make your own places and make your own rules. And, last but not least, 4. not everything short's a kid, some people just like to be shortstacks, or teeny but adult furry creatures, SL just has unrealistic height expectations. (Which is such a big problem that some SL car manufacturers even started taking action by making their cars scaled to only fit realistically sized avatars....)
[13:15] Nxxxx Fxxxxxxx: sorry btw to bring this here it just shocked me seeing a kid in an adult sim and them being all its allowed i was taken aback
Yeah. The grid, it be changin'.
[13:15] Nxxxx Fxxxxxxx: no it was a three year old
[13:17] Exxxxxxxx Mxxxx: my 3 year old av is careful on what sims she goes to
[13:17] sxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: ok
[13:18] sxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: i saw u in gay beach
Was this a wrong window? Or are you just being mean to be mean?
[13:18] Cxxxxx Fxxxxxxxxx: I know a lot of people who do the realistic height/appearance thing. There is a big community in SL that does that. But there are some people that I have seen in my time in SL that do the Ageplay as a child and want to get into some kinky stuff that is a nono as far as SL & LL is concerned. SIM owners can set their own rules. People can always report if they are not comfortable for Ageplay questions. But be aware of the realistic height/appearance community.
[13:19] Nxxxx Fxxxxxxx: onetime i was camming around at my skybox and the guy above me was in his box next to a clearly child av and there was porn on the big screen.. reported that for sure.. but again sorry.. back to shopping chat!
[13:23] nxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx thumbs through her stack of AR's against adult avi's
[13:24] Nxxxx Fxxxxxxx: whats an ar
[13:24] Nicki (nickipblackburn): Abuse Report
[13:24] Nxxxx Fxxxxxxx: oh
[13:36] Emilly Orr: Technically, 5'5" is short in RL, 5'6" is considered average for females. winky-face-smiley
[13:37] Rxxxx Mxxxxx: lol i am not even 5 ft in rl
The main upshot of all of this is: if you're an adult who doesn't want to interact with children, if they don't own a store you want things from, derender or block them. Problem solved. If you're a kid who doesn't want to interact with adults, same thing, derender/block. Easy peasy no fuss no muss.

But it is a complicated topic, I do agree.

Naked in the snow? Not me, but okay.

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No. This is a direct game rip from the second Alice game. Stop it.

For anyone who might be looking for free or discounted male skins, Ryan Schultz lists two offers on his blog that might still be available. Go see if they still are!

This one is yet another case of, "Is it Em, or are they really naked?" To wit:

ebody-girl1

I'd gone to the store in question on a hunt. They had an obscure hint, so I'd been there for a while before I finally decided, in total frustration, that maybe they meant something sparkling outside. So I cammed out, and saw...her.

ebody-girl2

And I won't lie, I got distracted. So there I am, standing motionless in the store. My "vision" via cam is focused outside on the snow. Watching her. Watching her not rez anything in.

No hair. No accessories. No shoes. No outfit. Nothing. Just...what looked for all the world like a bare system body in system lingerie. And not even all that much of that, as can be seen by the censoring.

And yet, her avatar listed things I could not see. Earrings. Necklace. Hair. Heels. Outfit. I was so confused. I actually had to look it up, because it really seemed like there was no way she was in a mesh body. But apparently she was, the eBody Classic, to be specific. Baffling, but there it was.

Fifteen minutes of the two of us standing in place while I waited for anything, even one single thing, to rez in, before I gave up on seeing anything magically appear on her, and the hunt item I was searching for, and left. Just odd.

In the meantime, I ran into a cartoon avatar in Second Life. No, wait, hear me out, I'm not using the term as an insult.

Gidget1

This is Ms. G. From the hair to the heels, she's perfect, if we're talking animated characters. Her eyes (which, alas, censoring prevents me from showing you, but they are a very pretty intense green) are overlarge, her hairstyle is vintage, her legs are thin, her hands are tiny. But taken as a total package, it works.

Gidget2

She's very Daphne. Seriously, check it:

Daphne Blake

See? Or for a more 'lifelike' look, try Daphne Clamel, a pinup model from the 1960s. (Some of her images are NSFW, that one is SFW.)

However one interprets it, though, this is definitely a tightly planned look. She is the avatar she wants to be. This is the body she wants to live in. I admire people who commit totally to their representations.

did you feel the weight of other's views, or was their ignorance a source of fun?

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First, out of the blue on Twitch, since I've been watching the Desert Bus for Hope stream off and on this week, I got a DM:
fhsbdcadalma: hows the stream? i just logged into twitch since i have been gaming so much after my pal sent me [link redacted because it's either a harvester or a cheat, and either way I don't need that] i can now get any game for free. you should try it too before they shut their service down. on a notepad i have already 2 c0des for todays games :d i took my 5 minutes and a few tries before getting one that worked on the steam store lol. hf
emptydoll: Go away.
I mean, why me? Seriously. I don't stream on Twitch. Outside of Desert Bus I barely even watch Twitch. Outside of Twitter, and once Tumblr, I don't have an active presence on any social media platform, so...why me? And what does "hf" mean?

And you bet I'm leaving that username intact, even if it's likely a throwaway, so anyone who wishes to can block them in advance from spamming nonsense.

In the meantime, more rule-changing:
[14:02] sxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: been away from SL for a bit. Can anyone tell me why parts of my body and others are floating in the air?
This is the question I'm starting with, but it's not really relevant to the main point. Still, it seems to indicate the user hasn't been in SL since the adoption of mesh.
[14:03] Jxxxx Hxx: just wait a moment...it will fix itself
Generally, though sometimes, the disconnection is so intense, avatars will need to leave the sim, and port back in, or actually relog, to fix the visual glitching.
[14:03] kxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: not going to touch that one
[14:03] nxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Make me a double of whatever [Sxxx] is drinking or smoking pls
This is the important line. Keep this simple reference firmly in mind.
[14:03] kxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: my smart mouth
[14:03] kxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: lol yes
[14:10] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Nxxxx]??
[14:10] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Wrong window??
And this level of "shock" felt manufactured.
[14:11] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: No alcohol or drug talk in [the group in question]. Period.
Again, keep in mind, THESE are the only rules stated in the group's description:
NOT ALLOWED in chat:
  • Store ads/spam/self-promotion
  • 3 lines MAX posts
  • MP and most outside links
  • Drama/rudeness
  • Criticizing stores/gifts
  • Malls-Franchises
  • Disco/Club/DJ ads
  • Breedables
  • Rental/sale
  • Most Adult sims/items
  • Gambling
  • Pay MM/LBs/gifts
  • RP: OOC only
  • NO blog links
  • AO with adult anim
  • Vehicles
What, in any of that, says "no discussion of drugs or alcohol"?
[14:17] lxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: because by not talking about a problem it will vanish?
[14:18] mxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: no, because these are the rules here.
Where? Show me where. Where in those rules listed for the group does it say that?
[14:21] lxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: hm ok i was not in this chat for awhile maybe this is new?
This is VERY new.
[14:22] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Not new at all. It is above PG talk.
Now you're just lying.

From the Knowledge Base:
General

A region designated General is not allowed to advertise or make available content or activity that is sexually explicit, violent, or depicts nudity. Sexually-oriented objects such as 'sex beds' or poseballs may not be located or sold in General regions.

General regions are areas where you should feel free to say and do things that you would be comfortable saying and doing in front of your grandmother or a grade school class. Institutions such as universities, conference organizers, and real world businesses may wish to designate their regions as General. Likewise their users (and others) may wish to employ Second Life's General search setting to focus and filter search results appropriately.

Some landowners and Residents desire a Second Life experience distinct from the activity that occurs in Moderate and Adult regions. Region owners who wish to host this sort of Second Life experience can (but need not) designate their regions as General.

If you are a region owner and you feel there is some ambiguity as to whether your content and activities are allowed in General regions, it's probably best to designate your region as Moderate.
General is generally treated as "G", for context.
Moderate

Second Life's Moderate designation accommodates most of the non-adult activities common in Second Life. Dance clubs, bars, stores and malls, galleries, music venues, beaches, parks, and other spaces for socializing, creating, and learning all support a Moderate designation so long as they do not host publicly promoted adult activities or content and do not use adult search tags. Groups, events and classifieds that relate to this broad range of activities and themes generally should also be designated as Moderate.

Residents in these spaces should therefore expect to see a variety of themes and content. Stores that sell a range of content that includes some 'sexy' clothing or objects can generally reside in Moderate rather than Adult regions. Dance clubs that feature 'burlesque' acts can also generally reside in Moderate regions as long as they don't promote sexual conduct, for instance through pose balls (whether in 'backrooms' or more visible spaces). However if any of these businesses uses adult-oriented search tags, the region may be categorized as Adult and blocked from appearing in non-Adult search.
Moderate is generally considered PG. Let me repeat a phrase used above, because it's vaguely important: "Dance clubs, bars, stores and malls, galleries, music venues, beaches, parks, and other spaces for socializing, creating, and learning" is the phrase I'm thinking of. What have I bolded in that phrase? PLACES WHERE ALCOHOL and (much less often) DRUGS can easily be found.So...what in a "PG" (remember, Moderate is treated as PG) tells the mods of this group--or at least this one, increasingly deluded mod of this group--that even extraordinarily vague references to alcohol would not fly under a PG setting?
[14:23] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: If you want to talk about drugs and alcohol, there are lots of other groups where you can do that.
[14:23] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: It is not welcome here.
According to you.
[14:23] sxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I just wanted to know why my avi and others are not rendering properly
[14:24] sxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: thought it might have been the BoM, but I have the latest FS viewer
[14:24] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: It happens, [Sxxx], it just happens.
[14:24] Pxxxxx Sxxxxxxxx: most likely you havent updated and bake on mesh
Read what she said again. She's updated to the latest Firestorm viewer, which includes Bakes-on-Mesh quoting.
[14:32] sxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: My experience is... the busier the sim, the more lag, and the longer Avi's dresses and such will hover over their heads, regardless of Viewer version
[14:34] lxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: busy places are "fake adult" for a minute until the clothes have rezzed on the avis
[14:36] Pxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Yup
Yep. Also very true.

But the important point still stands: I'm steadily getting irritated with this group. I don't want to leave it, because a lot of group gifts are given out, but I'm pretty much ignoring everything in chat unless it sounds like something instructive for the blog. I don't interact, I keep my head down, I don't want to get yelled at for not knowing yet another rule they invented on the spot for whatever reason they have to keep doing this, I just want to hear about the group offers and the Midnight Mania boards.

It's daunting.

fat bottomed girls, you make the rockin' world go 'round

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There is no way I'm getting out of this one without accusations of fat shaming, or difference shaming.

But.

bigbutts1

The whole reason I do these things is not specifically to poke fun at other people. I am a very judgmental person by nature, I accept this. And I have been trying to work on it. I like to think I've gotten (a little) better, which is saying something considering where I started.

However.

At some point expansion renders the human form meaningless. From the rear? This lass is all bum and thighs. You can see arms; you can see what seems to be a very small back in comparison. It takes you several seconds, if not minutes, to realize her feet are visible, and they seem the size of Twinkies, if not smaller things. You CAN see breasts, though, and again, from the rear, which generally should be impossible, people.

bigbutts2

And let me be VERY clear, here: She is not uncute in any way. Even with the censor bar in place, she is not uncute. This is not a case of a troll who came in, deliberately distorted an avatar shape, and ran around trying to hassle people because they're mentally five. She is not that. This is the look she wanted to have. Her profile makes that very clear.

But from the front? The distortion's actually worse. Again, there are feet--barely--but what she doesn't have when viewed from the front? ARMS. My gods, she barely has shoulders from the front. Torso? Forget about it. She's all breasts and hips and thighs.

She looks like someone's put a Bratz doll head on a Cabbage Patch kid. It's so disproportional. So many of her animations clipped through her everything.

bigbutts1

In fact, have an abomination in comparison, because I had some free time:

The Abominable Bratz

That is exactly what she reminds me of. There's just too much inflation. Yes, it's a virtual world, yes, live your dreams, yes, be who you want in the skin you want that best expresses who you really are...but if that's who Ms. Overfilled is, well...I mean, enjoy throwing off all animations for the rest of your SL existence.

Scenes from a Chat: Swaggering Tin-Plated Dictators with Delusions of Godhood edition

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(There may be some minor coding issues, and everything I do to fix it right now makes it worse, so I'm just publishing and I'll hopefully track down the glitch later on.)

That group is at it again:
[13:05] zxxx Mxxxx: well off for a soak in my tub with a glass of red ni ni all have a great one ☻
And this was ALL SHE SAID. That was IT. That one, single, solitary line, and on the face of it, it doesn't even specify alcohol, just the color of said beverage.
[13:06] Sxxx Sxxxxx: enjoy
[13:08] Sxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxxx: i crashed.... who won the question about # of stars in the universe
I guess to boost popularity, which means I'm assuming they're losing members, Mod D has taken to giving out random gachas for correct trivia question answers.
[13:08] Sxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxxx: ?
[13:09] Dxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: no one knows the correct answer
[13:10] Sxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxxx: 1 billion trillion?
[13:10] yxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: i know
[13:12] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Zxxx] won [12:50] Mxxx Zxxx: more than I can count
[13:12] Sxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxxx: i think [zxxx] won... i see in chat history that [dxxxxx] shouted her name before i crashed
[13:12] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: lol
[13:12] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: [Zxxx], don't forget no talk about alcohol, please.
We're all suddenly five and need to be protected from any hint of anything intoxicating, Adult, or mature in any way. Why?

In response to this, I got a private IM from someone:
[13:21] Wxxxxxxxxxx Vxxxx: I think [the group] rules are just made up on the spot whenever
[13:21] Emilly Orr: Me too
[13:21] Emilly Orr: And I know I shouldn't have said anything, but this one's just plain baffling
[13:21] Emilly Orr: [Dxxxxx] said yesterday it was because "PG rules" insist
[13:22] Emilly Orr: I read the ToS. Bars are part of PG lands in SL. She's high.
[13:22] Wxxxxxxxxxx Vxxxx: But they approve adult sims
[13:22] Wxxxxxxxxxx Vxxxx: if it suits her they allow adult
[13:22] Wxxxxxxxxxx Vxxxx: I posted a link proving I was right but she gives away to a friend too. No rules but whatever
[13:23] Emilly Orr: Right. If they're not within sight of a mall, other stores, seemingly ANY furnishings, or sell anything she doesn't approve of.
Why yes, I am still vastly irritated that all a good texture store in this group did was change sims and they were banned from being posted.
[13:23] Emilly Orr: Doesn't surprise me.
[13:23] Wxxxxxxxxxx Vxxxx: I really want to say something and get kicked out
[13:24] Emilly Orr: I'm on that edge. I don't want to get kicked out, but I'm really getting fed up.
[13:25] Wxxxxxxxxxx Vxxxx: Thats it I am doing it there arent many tonic freebies anyway
[13:25] Emilly Orr: True, most of the freebies and gifts are geared to Maitreya or Slink.
Believe me, I entirely understand the level of frustration. Because it really is getting ridiculous.

Then I noticed more conversation in the main group:

[13:21] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: The reasoning I have seen is it is not "PG" to talk about topics that teens underage cannot participate in. It really is that simple.
When I grabbed this chat section, this didn't stand out, but upon editing and rereading, this is a HUGE red flag. Now I really want to know to what standards of "underage" they're referring, because BY LAW one cannot have an account on SL unless one is provably over the age of sixteen. Moreover, I have recently learned there's an additional, not highly publicized setting wherein any account that started when the user was sixteen, that account is digitally blocked both from seeing Adult content as well as traveling to Adult sims.

With all that in mind, then, what definition of "teen" are they using? Eighteen? Legally considered adult for anything but drinking in the US. Sixteen? Legally considered adult in certain states for sexual interactions, considered legally adult for many other things in Japan and other nations. Thirteen? Then they're protecting a class of SL citizenry that lied to get those accounts, and moreover, should not be on SL in the first place.
[13:22] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: But I will mention it the next opportunity i get.
Of course you will.
[13:25] Wxxxxxxxxxx Vxxxx: How are there adult approved stores then if PG cant go there? I am so confused!
[13:27] Emilly Orr: Well, the ToS provisions for Second Life allow bars and clubs to be on Moderate land, which equates to PG, so...that's my confusion.
Because of course, I'm an idiot and had to comment.
[13:28]hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Best idea is to address the owners about some details. We do check the stores thoroughly to be approved or disapproved. I am not the rule maker, though. So I can't help you on this any further.
Which means all these changes are coming about because of Mod R, who's stepping in as group overlord since the group founders don't log into SL anymore. Got it.
[13:28] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: The rating PG in here does not relate to the M rating inworld.
[13:29] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: We are an island unto ourselves lol.
What? That makes zero sense. ZERO sense.
[13:30] Sxxx Sxxxxx: So rule is basically no substance talk of any kind, period ... ?
[13:30] bxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: That would ban the dictionary ...
It really would. Also, I refuse to believe there is a single sixteen-year-old person anywhere in America that does not know alcohol exists. Maybe, maybe, if that sixteen-year-old is being raised in an Amish or Hutterite community, they may have no practical (or even theoretical) understanding of illegal intoxicants, but alcohol? Beer and wine are not forbidden even in strict religious communities. So again, who are they attempting to protect? It's certainly not anyone already in the group.

From Ms. W again:
[13:26] Wxxxxxxxxxx Vxxxx: There I did it
[13:28] Wxxxxxxxxxx Vxxxx: In other words she just said shes makign it up and takes no responsibility
[13:32] Emilly Orr: Yes and no. She said two things there. First, that hey, it's not HER, it's [Rxxx], she just does what [Rxxx] says, and second, it doesn't have any relation to the ToS.
Which is beyond frustrating.

And this from Ms. A, who IMed me later:
[13:29] axxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: The reasons is that the rules are made up depending on the mod's mood and the friends shops.
[13:32] Emilly Orr: Pretty much seems to be the case.
[13:32] axxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: and if you talk about it in public you are instantly banned
[13:33] Emilly Orr: Which is why I'm being very careful until I decide I'm done with the nonsense and can live without the group.
Honestly, I'm seriously thinking of collating all the commonly mentioned stores in this group, and then going to them and seeing what other groups they're in, because if I can get occasional group gifts from those groups instead, why am I dealing with the totalitarian dictator dolls of this group?
[13:34] axxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: The evolution of the group is very interesting from a sociopolitical study point of view.
[13:34] axxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Today it is a totalitarian virtual terrorism dictatorship
As I mentioned, and there are likely more changes coming.
[13:35] Emilly Orr: I'm still wondering why. Not so much the evolution, all groups involved, but the whole bit the last two years of "We know what the rules are but we're not going to tell you because reasons"
[13:36] axxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: The reason is discrimination in favor of some shops and silencing their competitors
[13:39] Emilly Orr: Therein lies the question: what did Timeless's creator do to irk them so? She has the EXACT SAME store construction--her main with satellite stores of fashion and textures--that she had before the move. The ONLY change was from a Moderate to an Adult sim, and she made ABSOLUTELY sure she was not violating any provision for this group's Adult store policy. They kicked her out anyway.
[13:41] axxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Because she did not contribute enough most probably
[13:41] axxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: or was not friendly enough with the owners.
[13:41] Emilly Orr rolls her eyes
[13:42] axxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: Scandalize is one the forbidden ones without any serious reason other than silencing this competitor
[13:43] Emilly Orr: I have a vague recollection of them being something Adult that was not approved
[13:44] axxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: This group was created because fab free was considered as too strict. But [the group in question] has turned over time much worse
She's not wrong.
[13:45] Emilly Orr: Yeah, FabFree is MUCH less strict by comparison now.
And more from the main group:
[13:31] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: What does that mean, [Sxxx]? What are you referring to, hon?
[13:32] Sxxx Sxxxxx: substance ie drugs, alcohol, adult nature etc
[13:32] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: O! Right, yes. Correct.
[13:33] Sxxx Sxxxxx: Sorry, substance is a UK thing (from the area I originate from) that refers to those topics
[13:33] hxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: I thought you meant depth of topic lol
[13:36] Wxxxxxxxxxx Vxxxx: I'm going to report anyone I see talk about those things even mods
Remember, this is the lass who's hit the point I'm nearing. My solution, when I finally get here, will likely be me simply leaving the group. Hers is to make enough trouble they kick her out.
[13:36] bxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: surprised-emoji
[13:37] Wxxxxxxxxxxx Vxxxx: And just fair that no adult place should be allowed and not another.
It's not. It's absolutely not. The rules are arbitrary, whimsical, valueless, and hidden. All four of these things are bad if a group is trying to get people to live by the rules.
[13:42] mxxxxxxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: *eyeballs chat*
Another mod of the group.
[13:42] cxxxxxxx Rxxxxxxx: why?
Does it matter? It's not like you'll care enough to change anything anyway.

I give up.

Next up (likely tomorrow): explaining the recent YouTube changes.

well, the preacher in the pulpit, jumpin' up and down

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Now, I'm going to be dealing with the actual text of the changes as written below, but I'd like to point out a Council of Geeks video that takes on the topic, as well as Mutahar's look at it from the SomeOrdinaryGamers channel. There is deliberate bad language in the latter, so be aware, it may not be safe to play audibly at work.

Before I take on the changes, though, I do want to mention the text of another email I received:
Hi Emilly Orr,
Important changes that may impact your monetization and content discoverability are coming.

Starting today, all creators are required to tell us if their content is made for kids in order to comply with the Children's Online Privacy Protection Act (COPPA) and/or other applicable laws. To help you comply, we are introducing a new audience setting in YouTube Studio.

Depending on the amount of made for kids content on your channel, you can set your audience at either the channel level or the video level. For those who are setting at the channel level, it is just one click.

supposedly-helpful-YT-graphics
So this is YouTube's supposedly "helpful" graph on who needs to pick what setting. My way was clear--as I'm planning (if I can EVER afford a good microphone!) to enter the realm of absolutely non-monetizeable horror narration--to pick NO kids' content whatsoever, but for other content creators, it's going to be something of a battle. Due to the provisions mentioned below, even clicking "partial" on this scale will likely remove monetization options for creators. There's no way to win.
These changes are required as part of a settlement with the US Federal Trade Commission (FTC) and NY Attorney General, and will help you comply with the Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act (COPPA) and/or other applicable laws.
So, what exactly is changing? Well, as the email goes on to say:
What is changing?
Starting today, all creators are required to mark their content as made for kids or not made for kids in YouTube Studio.

Starting in January: we will limit the data we collect on made for kids content to comply with the law. This means we will disable personalized ads on this content (which affects revenue for creators making content for kids), as well as certain features like comments, notifications and others. Note: You may see some small changes as we experiment and refine our systems over the next few months.

For a list of affected features, go here.
Those features pretty much go more into detail on the above, but it all boils down to this:

  • If you own a YouTube channel, and it has even one video, or if you EVER intend to upload even ONE video, you now MUST BY LAW pick one of the three options--and you have to do that either once, for your full channel, or per video, for EVERY SINGLE VIDEO YOU UPLOAD.
  • You HAVE to use the website's YouTube Studio to pick and set your settings. Want to do it by phone in the YouTube API? Tough. Want to stay in YouTube Classic? Sucks to be you. You HAVE to pick one of the settings, and you HAVE to set it in YouTube Studio.
  • And if you think, hell, it's a big service, like they'll notice if I don't set the thing by January, this can't possibly matter...oh, you sweet summer child. YouTube won't kick hard alt-right synpathizers off their platform, but with the full weight of COPPA and the FTC's hammer hanging over you, you really don't want to swing and miss on this one.
So. This was the first email I received from YouTube:
We’re updating our Terms of Service (“Terms”) to improve readability and transparency. This update does not change the Google Privacy Policy, nor the way we collect and process your data.
We’ve provided a summary of key changes but here’s what you can expect:
  • Terms that are clearer and easier to understand with useful links to help you navigate YouTube and better understand our policies.
  • Expanded commitments to notify you about changes that may affect you, such as product updates or future changes to the Terms; and
  • Better alignment between our Terms and how YouTube works today.
The new Terms will take effect on 10 December, 2019. Please make sure you read the updated Terms carefully. If you would like more information, you can find additional information in our Help Center.
If you allow your child to use YouTube Kids, then please note that you are agreeing to the new Terms on behalf of your child as well.
This was the first line in the email to YouTube creators that had people worried. In a strictly legal sense, the only way a child can legally enter into a contract situation is by parental permission, or emancipated permission. If the latter, that child is legally responsible for their own actions, due to the emancipation, or at the very least, their court-appointed guardian is responsible for their actions.

But, as very few children--and, I would hazard to guess, no children under 13, which is the cut-off age for full COPPA provisions--are emancipated, it falls on the parents. Which makes those parents culpable for any problems their child causes on YouTube. In some cases this may legally involve a federal fine--the amount $40,000 has been tossed around, but apart from Mutahar's video, I haven't found mention of that anywhere else--but any financial fine is an issue, and may well involve parents ceasing their child's viewership of YouTube as a precautionary measure.
You can always review your privacy settings and manage how your data is used by visiting your Google Account.
Thank you for being part of the YouTube community!
Yeah, right. So. This brings us to the terms.

I'm only going to cover the changes from their existing ToS. This is made a little more difficult because, in addition to adding provisions, YouTube has substantially changed the language of the entire document.
Who may use the Service?

Age Requirements
You must be at least 13 years old to use the Service. However, children of all ages may use YouTube Kids (where available) if enabled by a parent or legal guardian.

Permission by Parent or Guardian

If you are under 18, you represent that you have your parent or guardian’s permission to use the Service. Please have them read this Agreement with you.

If you are a parent or legal guardian of a user under the age of 18, by allowing your child to use the Service, you are subject to the terms of this Agreement and responsible for your child’s activity on the Service. You can find tools and resources to help you manage your family’s experience on YouTube in our Help Centerand through Google’s Family Link.
So this part's fairly clear. They are now stating formally that while LEGALLY they are only permitted to allow individuals 13 and up to use the whole of the service, that the YouTube Kids section now authorizes 12 and below individuals to use that service--and that service alone. And, as mentioned above, parents are solely responsible for anything their children do in the YouTube Kids area, or any other section of YouTube.
Your Use of the Service

Content on the Service
The content on the Service includes videos, audio (for example music and other sounds), graphics, photos, text (such as comments and scripts), branding (including trade names, trademarks, service marks, or logos), interactive features, software, metrics, and other materials whether provided by you, YouTube or a third-party (collectively, "Content”).

Content is the responsibility of the person or entity that provides it to the Service. YouTube is under no obligation to host or serve Content. If you see any Content you believe does not comply with this Agreement, including by violating the Community Guidelines or the law, you can report it to us.
This was the second point of worry for people. Now, every company has the right to refuse service, that's sort of an everywhere law. But this was the first time YouTube has specifically stated they have no obligation to host or serve content at all. There's a much longer, more involved layout of how an individual can use YouTube; all that's been thrown out in the new terms for "We host what we want to host, deal".
Account Suspension and  Termination

Terminations by You
You may stop using the Service at any time. Follow these instructions to delete the Service from your Google Account, which involves closing your YouTube channel and removing your data. You also have the option to download a copy of your data first.

Terminations and Suspensions by YouTube for Cause

YouTube may suspend or terminate your access, your Google account, or your Google account’s access to all or part of the Service if (a) you materially or repeatedly breach this Agreement; (b) we are required to do so to comply with a legal requirement or a court order; or (c) we believe there has been conduct that creates (or could create) liability or harm to any user, other third party, YouTube or our Affiliates.

Terminations by YouTube for Service Changes

YouTube may terminate your access, or your Google account’s access to all or part of the Service if YouTube believes, in its sole discretion, that provision of the Service to you is no longer commercially viable.
This is another huge red flag, especially for users of YouTube. What, precisely, defines "no longer commercially viable"? If it's "does not raise income for YouTube", MILLIONS of user accounts--including my own--are on the chopping block. If it's "no longer monetizeable", that's another problem, because by YouTube's own previous terms, much of the LGBT community's video output, most news channels, all horror narration channels, nearly everyone covering true crime and urban legend stories, in addition to the great number of accounts that put together historical reference content for colleges concerning historical incidents of racism, bigotry, and genocide...well, all those are gone, too. So what exactly do they mean? Sanitized, kid-friendly content that never references drugs, alcohol, mishaps or mature language? But then we're backed into the corner of, if we only upload 100% safe-for-five-year-olds content, these videos cannot be monetized anyway save for the largest channels, and even they've seen a radical reduction of advertising on their content for over six months. So what does YouTube mean by "no longer commercially viable"?
Notice for Termination or Suspension

We will notify you with the reason for termination or suspension by YouTube unless we reasonably believe that to do so: (a) would violate the law or the direction of a legal enforcement authority, or would otherwise risk legal liability for YouTube or our Affiliates; (b) would compromise an investigation or the integrity or operation of the Service; or (c) would cause harm to any user, other third party, YouTube or our Affiliates. Where YouTube is terminating your access for Service changes, where reasonably possible, you will be provided with sufficient time to export your Content from the Service.

Effect of Account Suspension or Termination

If your Google account is terminated or your Google account’s access to the Service is restricted, you may continue using certain aspects of the Service (such as viewing only) without an account, and this Agreement will continue to apply to such use. If you believe your Google account has been terminated in error, you can appeal using this form.
By extension, this section has been completely revised. Formerly, the Terms of Service detailed specific reasons that a user's account could be terminated. This is both more specific, and more vague, in that they no longer lay out what needs to be done to kill someone's account, just vague considerations of general behavior. On the one hand, I understand, if someone specifically lays out that the first eight letters of the alphabet are taboo, users determined to get around the rules could take that as the rest of the alphabet being alloowed. With this version, it's more "We'll decide what's bad, but we'll tell you", without giving specific provisions as to what, exactly, YouTube qualifies as "bad".

The other part that has people largely getting hysterical is the "Terminations by YouTube for Service Changes" section. As the Council of Geeks video points out, while it can be taken on the surface as saying, if a user loses their YouTube account access, they will also lose all Google/Gmail service access, but I tend to agree that interpretation is imprecise, at best. I believe what they are saying is, if Jane Whimsoe is a YouTuber content provider, and Jane loses access to her YouTube account through misbehavior, that neither she on YouTube, nor she through use of Gmail or other Google account options, will be able to access YouTube as a content provider in any way.

But overall, what they've done with these changes is vague everything up. There are very few exacts in the new Terms of Service; just general unspecified terminology that things could be bad if we do something YouTube thinks isn't viable, saleable, or airable. Which conceivably could be...everything.

I guess, buckle up for December, folks, and let's see how bad it gets then.


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This is going to be something I do not, as a rule, do--post a full transcript of someone else's video. But I think so many of the points are important, I really wanted to share this.

So to start, this is the spoken text from CreepShow Art's video, Why does everyone hate Vivziepop?
"Fine, I will talk about Hazbin Hotel and Vivziepop, but not because you told me to--actually, yeah, it's only because you guys told me to.

"Hey guys, it's Shannon, and I have been getting non-stop requests to talk about Hazbin Hotel, and Vivziepop, and just throw my thoughts out into the atmosphere. Which is fine, uh, that's what this channel is really for, me just haphazardly screaming my opinions into a void, and random people I don't know telling me that they agree, and I'm a queen, or that I'm a living trash heap that they despise. That's essentially what I do online.
This bit hit home hard for me. Because a lot of times this is exactly how I feel--I get passionate about things, I take several entries to fully explore and post them and get zero feedback. I post a toss-off "this is a weird avatar" thing, and I get people jumping on my head for being mean, or hating on whichever group they think that avatar blends in with, or in general being a baby-eating Satanist. (Yes, that's a quote. No, it's not from an SL comment. I have been called a baby-eating Satanist twice in RL. I remain baffled as to why.
"But there's only one heaping, ginormous issue with this: and that is the fact that I have no friggin' idea who the frig Vivziepop is, or was. (Actually, it's just 'is' because it's not like she's dead; I just don't know her, is what I'm saying.) I don't really know who she is, I don't know what she really does, I don't know anything about her, and I don't know her favorite color, and, like, all of that is basic information that I need to have to form a definite opinion on someone, and what they do and how they are.

"So basically, when I started getting requests to talk about her, when I started this journey that is this video, I was a blank [f**king} slate. And luckily for me, that did not last very long. You see, the internet has two,TWO, very large, differing opinions on Vivziepop. One, is that she is a crazy talented young artist, who's just trying to make her way in the world, and the other, is that she is the personification of a devil, she is a terrible, evil woman who will stop at NOTHING to destroy this world. Which is great, and awesome, and amazing, and completely and entirely unhelpful for me forming an opinion on her.
I agree. I'll note at this point that I had no idea who Vivziepop was, until I started doing idle Google searches whilst listening to Shannon speak. Turns out, about two years ago there was some underground buzz about a show featuring a hotel in Hell, and it looked quirky and fun and interesting, and then...well, TWO YEARS went by, everyone forgot! I didn't even know the pilot had finally launched until those side searches turned up. (The pilot aired on October 29th, by the way. So I likely wouldn't have noticed anyway because I was hip-deep in haunts then.)
"I also feel like that's the internet's opinion on everyone, by the way? Like, literally there is never anyone online tweeting about how they're neither here nor there for a person, that they think the person's fine, and it's okay. They're either full-on fan-camming that person, and saying stan Gerard Way for clear skin under-[f**king] tragedies, or they are posting three page long Twitter threads on every reason why this person is terrible, and anyone who likes them is terrible by default, and that they should DIE.
This. Oh, so very much this. It's actually been an ongoing trend for about the last five years--basic civility lessening, genial social discourse being replaced by screaming matches, the gradual, "they're on the other side so they're not like US, they're not HUMAN like we are!" thinking becoming ossified into steel-trap brains. But of late, it's become real obvious online, especially on Twitter, which has largely gone from cheery social interchange and international connection service, to toxic waste dump we have to put on the haz-mat gloves to venture into. And a lot of the reason for that is this obstinate, ossified mindset on every side. "This person is EVIL and BAD and kicks puppies out of orphanages, and thus is Satan and needs to die immediately, and if you support him at ALL you'll be next against the wall when the revolution comes.""This person is AMAZING and INCREDIBLE and made of good and win and thus has been touched by God and we are unworthy to touch her feet and if you say anything even SLIGHTLY out of bounds about her I will take a chainsaw to your face." It's too extreme. There's no middle ground left.
"It's like that thing where you go to Amazon and you're trying to buy a toaster so you can make--I almost explained to you what you would make in a toaster, but, like, toast, duh, you get it, my brains are fried, I'm sorry. But like, you want to buy a toaster on Amazon, and you go to the reviews, and there's one person who's like, 'FIVE stars, this toaster cured my depression, got me a husband, and I have sex with this toaster every night. Ten out of ten, fantastic lover, would recommend.' And then there's a one star review right under it, talking about how the toaster stole her husband, her kids are now calling the toaster Mom, and she hates the toaster. Ruined her life, would destroy if she could.

"Vivziepop is the toaster here. Vivziepop essentially is a little toaster strudel that everyone either fucking loves, or hates, and nobody is neutral, and I can't figure a diddly darn thing out. And I feel like honestly, that's just the internet, you see this kind of trend now, where if someone dislikes someone else, they are just the most problematic person in the world and they have, like, list upon list upon list on why this person should be canceled, and all it really amounts to is this person made a very human mistake a couple years ago. This person got angry, and did something that they probably now regret. It's like, great. And I'm not saying that no one online has ever done anything wrong, and no one online has ever [f**ked] up, and no one's allowed to not like people, that is not what I am saying. I know that people are flawed, and it's inevitable for something to happen to make other people not like them. I know that. Not everyone's gonna vibe on the same level with other people, and it's fine. That's a real thing. I've felt it before, you've [f**kin'] felt it before, you're lying if you haven't...We all just kind of wait around for a person we don't vibe with, or don't like, to give us a reason to not like them, and right when we do, we just kind of pounce on it, like cute little baby mice, eatin' [f**kin'] cheese. As they do.
The other thing I've noticed? A lot of people seem fairly stable, at least on the surface, and will come off as essentially rational sorts--until someone steps up and says a thing. And then it's chaos. Half will be in utter slavish support of X, half will be in utter frothing disregard of X, and the clashes have gotten violent. People have died. (Look up Heather Heyer. Or the innumerable incidents where swatting has resulted in injuries and deaths. The first was just because the yahoo behind the wheel wanted to hurt people more than he wanted to calm down, and the latter is generally because someone won an FPS game that person wanted to win. It's so...petty.)
"A great example of this, is take what happens with Sashly, literally every month or so. I am not a fan of Sashly, I don't know their content, I don't watch anything they've ever done. I wouldn't even say I know who they are. But I watch content of people who talk about her, and it's [f**king] WILD how people treat this literal child online. Like, there is a creator who is literally fourteen, who people want to call every name in the book, because she acts like a creator who is fourteen years old. She is FOURTEEN, and people are having post threads about why she is the worst person in the world, and I'm just sitting there like, that's a CHILD, guys!

"People often forget that pretty much until you were about twenty-five, your mind is in a constant state of flux, and you are constantly learning, and changing, and growing into yourself. People act like who are and what you posted when you were thirteen, fourteen, fifteen, like, that represents you for the entirety of your life. And that you're going to stand by it to the end of the world. And you aren't gonna be and act like a hormonal person who is being ravaged by puberty and how terrible that [sh*t] is. Literally, back when I was fourteen, I was writing a story, a full-on, thirty page story, about being in love with Gerard Way, and made up an entire life where me and Gerard were together, and yes, at some points, that story did get steamy. Now, some part of my very stupid teenage hormone-fueled brain knew that I shouldn't share that story with the world, because I would be made fun of until the cows come home, and also, you know, it's just embarrassing. I knew [if] people read that and were like, Shannon made that, it would be embarrassing for me. But I always feel like now, if I had made the mistake of uploading that to fanfiction.net, then that story would be used TODAY to expose me in some way. Like, my puberty fanfiction and fan art of me with an adult man (that I was in love with because I was a hormone addled teen going through puberty), that would be used to expose me as a [f**kin'] adult. Which is the STUPIDEST thing ever, like, some stupid thing I did when I was young is gonna be brought up as a reason to hate me now? Even though that story was written by a girl who just wanted to be liked by a guy with cute long hair?
Putting aside the fanfic angle--I think enough of us, me included, have written fanfic that we fully understand why it would be embarrassing to find, years later--let's just talk about the war between generations is heating up, too. I mean, there was always a divide, there always will be, but at this point, it's like literally screaming over a wall. "Okay boomer" versus "Millenials are lazy", and every generation in between.
"Even saying that, I feel like someone's gonna watch this video right now and be like, Shannon just admitted to making smut with a minor in it. Send! Her! To! The! Ranch! Like, I feel like that's gonna happen on this video. And you know what? Okay. The ranch has horses, I wanna pet a horse.

"People also have a tendency to overextend nowadays, when they talk negatively about people online, because where you would say before, oh, I don't like Viv because she made weird, not-safe-for-work art that made me uncomfortable when she was younger? Now you would say 'She clearly believes in bestiality and zoophilia, and she thinks that's all sanitary and good, and she DEFINITELY practices that in her real life, and if I see anyone talking about her positively in any way, shape or form, I'm gonna leave a [sh*tty] little Twitter reply saying that you support someone who would have sex with an animal', even though drawing that does not equate with that at all.

"After I got plenty of requests to make this video, I posted about this on Twitter, trying to get a real good feel, a little touch, about why people do not like her. Because I wanted to hear, straight from the horse's Twitter, why people rage against the machine that is Vivziepop. And most of the responses I got were fair, and neutral, and normal. And then the Fire Nation [f**kin'] attacked. And I got so many angry responses that I had to delete it. But I'm going to read you one of the more neutral ones explaining their side, and explaining why they don't like her. Back when she was nineteen, she made various images depicting pedophilic and zoophilic imagery. So let's start there. No, that is not the whole tweet, it's just part one, it's gonna take a while.

"First off, no, she didn't make any pedophilic imagery. She drew two characters, one of which was eighteen, the other of which was nineteen, meaning both characters were above the legal age of consent, and is in no way pedophilic. There's another drawing of an adult being creepy to a child character, but straight up, it seems like it was a dumb joke that she thought was funny at the time, and I know, look, that's exactly how she explained it. It was a dumb joke that she thought was funny. She doesn't think it's funny now. She regrets it. She apologized for it. If you're going to say that she is a pedophile, and hold her to a standard that a joke now makes it impossible to be a fan of hers, and a joke makes her that label, you better have the same energy when talking about Shane Dawson, or Tyler Oakley, or essentially all of 2007 YouTube creators, because they all were making those jokes.
Yeah, if animating furries is bestiality now, 60% of Second Life is going under.
"She also hired a known sexual abuser and accused abuser onto Hazbin Hotel. So, I don't know if this is supposed to be two separate people, or if she's saying that this person is both a known abuser, and an accused abuser, but those two kind of, you know, it doesn't work like that. But because there's only one person on the roster for the show that I know has been accused of abuse, I'm going to assume that that is what they meant. Which makes no sense, because she is stating in the same sentence that this person is also terrible, known, and there is proof of it, and everyone knows it, and it's a fact, and also that this person has only been accused of abuse. So which is it? Are you fighting that there's physical proof out there, that this person has done this? Are you saying he's only been accused of this?

"Actually, I know which one you're saying, seeing as there's only one person on the roster that's been accused of abuse, and there's no actual proof that it's happened, and it hasn't been proven beyond a reasonable doubt. And I've actually talked about this a lot in my time on YouTube, but just because someone was accused of doing something, just because someone stated that someone hurt them, that does not make it true. To say as much is to also say that no one has ever gone on the internet and lied, and that's incredibly short-sighted.
As she touches on below, I think it is incredibly important to validate victims' experiences, and to support them, but...as painful as it is to type...she's not wrong. Not all men are guilty, not all women are truthful, and if we believe in these monochromatic definitions, we lose a lot of depth in the eventual conversations.
"While it's really nice to say that you want to believe all victims, and you want to believe all women, that actually doesn't work in the real world. Because you are diminishing a woman's capacity to lie, and her agency to do so. You are actually saying women do not have the mental capacity to be dubious, and they do. Do we know if the person she hired (whose name I am NOT going to say, because I don't want to label him as an abuser, when I don't have any proof, other than accusations) is an abusive [pr*ck]? Conclusively, no, we don't. Do we know that he isn't one? No, we don't. But it's innocent until proven guilty, and because we can't say for sure, should we all collectively [sh*t] on someone who simply gave that person a job? No, we shouldn't. Let's continue.

"There have been several cases of her cyberbullying, and encouraging her fans and friends to bully others. Along with that, many see her to have a really rotten and immature attitude, especially when it comes to criticism, and the fact that she refuses any and all, and often paints any person who criticizes her as being haters, and on a few occasions, has gotten her fans and friends to harass people who try to give her critique and constructive criticism. Now, this,THIS is something I can actually understand. I am friends with a creator whose name is Miss Zi-Zi, who is a sincerely wonderful person, and a fantastic artist, and you should all go subscribe to her...She made videos critiquing Vivsie before, and in those videos, she of course made jokes, but she was incredibly insightful, and made a lot of constructive criticism. And when Vivsie saw it, she kind of snapped at her. Which is in her right to do, but it does come off as bratty and rude.
As Catu Draws pointed out in the comments to Shannon's video,
Say it with me. Criticism is NOT telling someone “I don’t like how you drew that.”
It’s “You could improve this drawing by doing...”
And they're absolutely right. But it does seem largely that Vivziepop, like Anne Rice before her, refuses any and all criticism at times. And maybe it's because it's being presented with the hostility of a thousand mongered rumors. I can't honestly tell. But it seems from what little I turned up, that even the most well-meaning phrasing gets kicked to the curb as fast as a "You suck, die" line.
"And I get it, when you are a creator, especially an art creator, you kind of set yourself up to be [sh*t] on by everyone, because they have eyes, and they want to tell you how terrible you are. So someone sees your art and decides they are going to tell you that is the worst thing that they've ever seen, and that you suck and everything you try to do. And it only gets worse the more popular you get. It can be frustrating because maybe they are talking about a piece that means a lot to you, and maybe you worked so [f**king] hard on it, you just wanted people to like it, and say that they like it. That [sh*t] is rough, and annoying, and sometimes you see it and you get a bit [b*tchy]. It happens. And people are fine for not liking her for that reason, because you have so much success, it comes off bratty if you [b*tch] at someone who simply criticized you. But this is the first real reason given for people not liking her that I think stands up. The first reason that actually works as an argument, versus everything else that was stated. And if I was given this argument only, as I was with various other comments, I wouldn't have made this video. If the majority of people who don't like Vivsie only commented on the fact that they find her to be a bit bratty and they don't like how she holds herself, then cool, awesome, great, we can vibe on that point.

"But don't lump in that she supports blackface, that she is racist, she is transphobic, she's made inappropriate art of minors, she supports men who abuse women, she's evil in every sense of the word--that to me doesn't fly. Because that's wildly, wildly overstepping. Now that, again, was not the only comment I got that painted Viv in a negative light. Oh, no no no no no no. That was probably one of the most well-written ones without telling me to kill myself, or that I'm supporting a child predator; that was one that, you know, didn't deliberately threaten my life in any sort of way, and I loved it. I love angry comments that make no sense, but literally me asking someone why they are hated, me asking about that, looking for clarity, that's enough to get someone to try to send [sh*t] on me. That's ridiculous. Oh, I literally just got one. Oh, my god, it's threatening, it's threatening my husband. Great. I would love to see you try to hurt my husband, you absolute moron. [F**king] Jesus Christ.
And by the same extension, if you find someone who's asked a question about why everyone is hating on X, don't answer them with death threats. That's severely uncool. And it makes you sound insane. Just answer them as politely as you can. They may GENUINELY not know what's up, and you could be the calm and rational voice they'll remember in years to come, who told the truth without threats, without condescension, without acid rancor.

Not exactly a case in point, but a sidewise corollary: dear friend of mine asked who PewDiePie was. And my jaw fell off. I knew my two choices in that moment were, are you stupid, everyone knows who PewDiePie is...and to answer him honestly with a brief series of comments. I chose the latter.

But I easily could have gone with the first. It is so, so very easy not to think before we speak. And yeah, it's also a pain to constantly monitor what emerges from our face holes, because sometimes talking is a lot like breathing and we forget we can actually control it.
"Well, let's continue, though, because as that comment did list a lot of reasons why people have issues with Vivsie, it didn't go over everything. There's also a thread on Twitter that talks about Viv and Hazbin Hotel, and comically censors the name, which is very strange to me. I don't know why you're doing that. And I was going to go through it point by point by point, but then a fantastic creator by the name of What the Cheick, I think is pronounced, I don't know, made a video the other week about it and it's fan-friggin-tastic. I have that video linked in the comments down below, and in the description down below, and I highly suggest you go check it out. But I did want to briefly touch upon the other claims that What the Cheick didn't go over in their video, and those are the claims that Hazbin Hotel is homophobic, racist and evil, because I've been seeing that quite a lot. I got a lot of comments saying that that's the case. Which is astounding, because there's literally two gay, female leads in a relationship, which was made clear at the beginning of the episode, and neither of them is putting up any sort of gay stereotype, and I just, I don't, I don't, I don't, I don't, guys, I just don't. If you haven't watched the show, it's about Charlie, the daughter of the devil, who is wanting to make a hotel that rehabilitates demons and sinners, because she is tired of angels coming down from heaven, and killing them every year. She wants to help the population of Hell be better, and earn their way into Heaven. And with the help of her girlfriend, Vaggie, I guess her name is, she sets upon doing it. So you have nice, well-meaning protagonist, who also likes to break out into song randomly, and has a really sunshiny disposition, despite the fact that she lives in literal Hell. That is a fun romp-a-roony of a cartoon, that has a great premise, and though I didn't really, like, I just think it's okay, I can see why people like it.

"And it's even more fun because in the world where this sunshiny protagonist is, in the world surrounding this girl, everyone's fucking terrible. Everyone else, except Vaggie I guess, because she seems like a genuinely pleasant and protective person, and is really cool, I don't know why she has an X on her eye, but whatever, she seems cool. So you have these two nice people, these two people you actually want to root for, in Hell, trying to make everyone who is bad and likes being bad better, that's [f**cking] great. But apparently, people didn't understand that it's set in Hell? And in order for a show like that to work, you have to make everyone in Hell be terrible people? Like apparently, that didn't cross anyone's mind, and they didn't realize that that would be a thing that would have to happen, because the moment that a character, someone who was set up to be a literal antagonist, who works as a news reporter in Hell, said that she doesn't touch the gays, everyone shit themselves. Everyone started screaming that that was homophobic, even though in my perception, that's, like, probably why she ended up in Hell? Like, it's not saying, look at this nice homophobic character, don't we love her? It's saying, look at this character who's in Hell, oh, she's homophobic? Makes sense, that's probably why she's in Hell.
I freely admit, I don't get this angle on the protests. Why do viewers expect demons to be good? Why do viewers expect Hell to be a pastoral nature reserve? It's like watching the show Lucifer and being shocked and horrified when he tempts someone. It's in the name.
"You know? Like, i-it's why she's an antagonist! I don't know how this joke went over peoples' [heads], and how they're interpreting it as, like, oh no, oh no, that's--she's a good character, and we sh--all are trying to root for her, right? And I, I'm, I don't, I don't, I don't know what got lost in the sauce, but boy, did it get lost. I, not kidding, I got a literal DM that Viv hates gay people because of this line, and I just, I just, I, I don't know what to do! I don't know how to explain what a joke is, better!

"There are also people commenting that Charlie's girlfriend Vaggie was a terrible person and is terrible representation because she was angry in the first episode? Even though, in my viewpoint, the show gave her a very good reason to be angry? And in that scene, at least to me, it doesn't show her in a negative light. Like, one character just ruined their chances of being taken seriously. He made them look terrible on live television, and instead of standing up for herself and what she believes in, Charlie just sat there and did nothing. So Vaggie stands up for her girlfriend. If anything, it shows her in a great light, and I related to that, because that's me.
Kind of me too, on both sides. I have trouble standing up for my own person a lot of the time, but come after someone I'm loyal to, and I go feral. Generally to everyone's detriment, including my own. But I get Vaggie's anger--she thinks Charlie's a bit of a soft touch, and she's insanely innocent considering who her father is, but she'll be damned again if anyone will hurt her and get away with it.
"Then, there's the character of Angel Dust, who is a gay porn star named after drugs, does drugs, and revels in violence. People are saying that he's bad gay representation because he's hyper-sexual, and also a demon. He acts like a demon.. He's hyper-sexual because he's a porn star. He's a bad person because he's in Hell and is a demon. Like, the show went out of its way to explain why this character acts that way, even though it didn't, it didn't have to, 'cause once again, literal demon. And literal Hell. And people are upset, and I'm, like, I don't know what you wanted from a literal demon in Hell, but if you wanted them to be a good person, I don't know why they would be in Hell! I just, I don't, I don't, I don't get it, I don't understand. It would make less sense if she wrote him as a nice, uwu, good boy, because he...is in...Hell. And therefore, his worst attributes, his worst tendencies, are going to be on full display. They're gonna be cranked up to eleven. She's not saying that all gay people are like this. She's literally having a gay couple be like the most nice representation on this show, this is nothing like that. I don't, I don't know, I feel like something got lost in the sauce, and people were like, this show about demons being in Hell is gonna have the best characters who are just uwu so good, and I'm, I'm confused, I'm confused at what people thought. Again, I think the show was just okay, I thought it was fine, I don't love it, I'm not worshipping the ground it walks on. But, like, those complaints just don't make any sense to me, and I'm...here. I don't know, whatever, let me know if you guys are going to be unsubscribing to me because this problematic hot take, that the show is just 'okay', Viv isn't a literal devil, and we should all just generally care less, a little bit, about everything, and maybe take a nap? That's my hot take--take a nap, before you tell me to kill myself again, guys.
I tend to agree about Angel Dust's character as well, namely because I've known people like that. Self-destructive to a fault, looking for the nearest exit with the shortest waiting line, zero concern for person or heart or mind that's in the way of that focused intensity towards oblivion...They're out there. They're usually broken, careless, and strangely charming, and it's a very bad combination. But Angel Dust, people should keep in mind, is not a representation of a gay man; he's the representation of a demon who happens to be gay. There's a HUUUGE difference between those two portrayals.
"Anyway, I hope you guys are having a genuinely nice day, I will see you in my next video. Good night."
And that's about it. I thought her words codified some thoughts in my own head that were refusing to cohere in any identifiable form for me. So there you go. Who the talk is about, in the end, really doesn't matter; what she says about how the internet as a whole treats that person--or any person who becomes even vaguely controversial--does. And as the internet in no small part is a reflection of the world we bring into it, it's also a reflection of how we are treating each other, on a daily basis. Just...step back. Take a breath. Think through what you want to say. Do you really want to say it to hurt the other person? Do you want to say it to hurt in that way?

Consider why you want to, before you do. Right or wrong won't matter ten years down the road from this argument, but your words, if they strike home and sink deep enough, will. So...treat them with respect, your words. Try to be conscious of what you say.

I'm trying to do the same. And we're all going to fail for a long time, working back from adversarial everything. But I think it's worth the struggle.

and it hurts even more to have to be with somebody else

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My heart weeps for the future. Seen at the Fenix event:

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Oh, this hurts. That is notCarmen Miranda's outfit, you dolts. This is Carmen Miranda's outfit:



This is Josephine Baker's outfit:



seen in her so-called Danse Sauvage attire. GET IT RIGHT.

the Reds are just over yonder, boys, and we ain't gonna be here long

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Hoo boy, I haven't seen something this jarring for quite some time. (And before you ask, no, she's spent far too long on the grid for this level of rookie mistake.)

I present: 2019's Worst Feet award.

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Yes, I know, hooker platforms are hugely popular on SL. I'm not saying that. I personally think that particular style of shoe is unflattering, and I refuse to buy any that don't have VERY impressive design features. But as you can see, that's not really the problem. The skin tone is the problem. Did no one mention to her she's not black?

Maybe she's genuinely lost on this point--I was mainly focused on her feet, not the tragedy of the dress (which isn't great) and the fact that her hair was literally larger than her entire head twice over. But then I swung around to the rear, and I realized we had a bigger problem.

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I am 98% sure these are vintage shoes, from that era in SL where people made shoes with prim feet in them. Why do I think this? Two reasons, and neither of them have to do with the skin tone that's so jarring. Point one: There was a certain curve to the foot, a very unnatural curve to the foot, that was only seen in really big play in the early days of sculpted feet. It can clearly be seen from the above shot; toes just don't bend like that, period.

But point two is worse: measure the feet. Her feet are the same length as her entire calves, and that's terrifying. That is cartoonish in the worst way. That is ludicrously oversized. Don't do this.

And learn how to use the skin-tinting HUD. Jesus.

and there's two white horses following me, waiting on my burying ground

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Treesicle's take on COPPA and the YouTube behavior that got us here.

See also Game Theory's contemplation of what happens after COPPA, Ian Corzine's first COPPA video, Ian Corzine's second COPPA video, what's wrong with the FTC's COPPA agreement with YouTube from Folding Ideas, Chadtronic's take on the whole mess (using the previously mentioned $40,000 fine figures, not the revised $42,500 fine figures), and ReviewTechUSA's opinion that COPPA won't be the problem, YouTube's dependency on the machine algorithm system (as usual) for detection will be.

Also have PKRussi's video on how COPPA potentially can affect YouTube animation, and animation channels.

This is taken from COPPA's FAQ page:
A GUIDE FOR BUSINESS AND PARENTS AND SMALL ENTITY COMPLIANCE GUIDE
(March 20, 2015: FAQ M.1, M.4, and M.5 revised. FAQ M.6 deleted)
D. WEBSITES AND ONLINE SERVICES DIRECTED TO CHILDREN
1. COPPA applies to websites or online services that are “directed to children.” What determines whether or not a website or online service is directed to children?
The amended Rule sets out a number of factors for determining whether a website or online service is directed to children. These include subject matter of the site or service, its visual content, the use of animated characters or child-oriented activities and incentives, music or other audio content, age of models, presence of child celebrities or celebrities who appeal to children, language or other characteristics of the website or online service, or whether advertising promoting or appearing on the website or online service is directed to children. The Rule also states that the Commission will consider competent and reliable empirical evidence regarding audience composition, as well as evidence regarding the intended audience of the site or service. See 16 C.F.R. § 312.2 (definition of “Web site or online service directed to children,” paragraph (1)).

As described in FAQ D.5 below, the amended Rule also considers a website or online service to be “directed to children” where it has actual knowledge that it is collecting personal information directly from users of another website or online service that is directed to children. See 16 C.F.R. § 312.2 (definition of “Web site or online service directed to children,” paragraph (2)).
Taken from Chadtronic's video linked above, I found this image:

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I wish I could track down the specific pamphlet to which he refers (it seems to be titled "Protecting Children's Privacy under COPPA: A Survey on Compliance"), but in essence, this tells me that basically, any video from January 2020 that potentially uses any of these objects or styles:
  • animated or that uses animated characters (either original art, or using known cartoon characters, video game characters, art from childrens' books, animation of children's toys, or animation of childrens' TV stars or themes from childrens' TV shows)
  • uses video games at all, either playing or reviewing
  • uses bright engaging colors
  • uses "simple" language and/or short, colorful descriptions (that's 98% of the videos on YouTube right now)
  • offers freebies or free games
  • uses bold or fast-moving graphics
  • uses or describes subject matter that is "appealing" to children (in other words, childrens' jokes or games, childrens' sports, any story considered to be 'for kids', anything featuring pets that might appeal to children, or anything that is primarily purchased for or consumed by children, like candy or sugared cereal)
  • is a "how to" or "DIY" video for "child-centered" arts and crafts (or can be taken for same)
  • features childrens' toys or items considered to be childrens' toys
  • features a child celebrity (even if said child celebrity is over the age of 13, think JoJo Siwa, who's sixteen as of this writing, but started her YouTube career--with parental consent--much younger)
  • features a celebrity of any age whose largest appeal is to a childrens' demographic (think Jake Paul, who is--at least legally--an adult, but whose demographic at personal appearances and concerts averages to about nine years old; he even admits the biggest sector of his fan base is under twelve)
  • uses "slang" that children would resonate with (they give terrible examples in one of the publications, like "Dude" and "For sure")
  • uses "child centered" sound effects (think cartoon sound effects for that one)
  • features video participants under the age of 13
  • offers contests geared towards a childrens' demographic
  • asks questions, either in the video or below in the video's description, requesting personally identifying information from anyone under the age of 13
  • anything within the video, or linked to the video, considered "child-based" or "child-directed" entertainment
  • or pertains to anything the FTC as a ruling body would consider "child-directed"
could be considered "child-directed", and thus, if said video is NOT LABELED AS"child-directed", said video's creator could be liable for a fine of up to $42,500. (That's US. It's still high anywhere on the planet, though. 42K is not a small number.) So basically...if the new legislation is enacted with no changes to terminology or text, then there will no longer be any financial incentive for child-centered content creators to create anything, because BY creating a video, and uploading it, they will be uploading said video to:
  • no advertising (because YouTube can no longer legally collect data and statistics from known child accounts, and rather than be responsible and deal with this rationally, and develop an age-gating system, and requiring every user of YouTube to register an account WITH YouTube, they're passing the legal responsibility for data collection down to the individual content creators)
  • no comments (thus, no interaction with viewers)
  • no ability to post user polls
  • no ability for non-subscribers to find that video using YouTube search
  • no notifications sent out TO subscribers that a new video has been uploaded
  • that video will no longer be suggested or recommended to anyone
And why yes, all of this sounds dire. Which is why I'm bringing it up, on the off-chance I have readers who are also YouTube creators.

I'll keep on this, in the hopes that things change, but...it's not looking good, folks.

river swells and breaks its banks, acting up instead of thanks

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[10:35] Txxx Rxxxxxxx (god): LALALALA
Handy life tip: if you have to specify you're a god...you're not one.

Also, unless you're specifically playing an idiot god, might be a good idea to upgrade the level of pronouncements from "LALALALA". Just sayin'.

In other news, I got a card today from the creator behind Caverna Obscura, and I will honestly be shocked if more people don't follow her lead:
Greetings!

Maybe some of you have heard the news that Linden Labs will raise Marketplace fees to 10% on December 2. Here is the blogpost with the official announcement:

https://community.secondlife.com/blogs/entry/3016-the-return-of-last-names-and-changes-to-marketplace-events-premium/

It is a 100% raise from what we are paying now (5%) so many creators/merchants will be raising their prices on Marketplace by 10% come December 2.

Caverna Obscura will also raise MP prices by 10% on December 1 (for all mesh items and some of the older prim/sculpt items). The in-world prices for everything and MP prices on most older prim items will remain the same. Here are a few examples of the price difference:

an item that is 595L$ in-world will cost 660L$ on MP, or

an item that is 395L$ in-world will be 440L$ on MP,

just to give you a feel of what it all means. I encourage everybody to use MP for finding items you like, then going in-world stores and using your viewer’s Search Area tool to quickly locate the item you are looking for on the sim. If you can’t find something in-world please don’t hesitate to contact Elvina Ewing. Of course those who prefer the convenience of MP and will not mind the price increase can continue to buy on MP.
Now, for me personally, I am likely going to see how this plays out, and make the decision then on what to raise. My biggest seller on my tiny MP store is still my very, very vintage Sukkot kit, which desperately needs revision, and the only reason I charge for that at all is because I want to track who's bought it in case I do find a way to revise it. (There are, still, no Sukkot poses on Second Life. It's not that they're hard to do, just that a) I'm not an animator, and b), I'm not Jewish. Shouldn't someone more qualified be doing this?)

But that seems to be where things stand. It's either a cash grab on the Lindens' part, or they're trying to drive traffic back in-world, and honestly, not sure which.

To the rest of the blog post, bringing back last names is a great thing, and everyone's been asking for it for years now, but what's cheap and underhanded in that is, they're requiring people be premium members to make the change, and they're charging an additional fee on top of that. It's baffling.

From the article linked above:
THE RETURN OF LAST NAMES -- UPDATE and CONTEST

We heard you loud and clear.
That's difficult to believe.
Soon it will be possible to change the name of a Second Life account. This is one of our Residents’ most requested features and we’re working furiously to make it available by the end of January. Name Changes will be exclusively for Premium members at an additional fee.
But note, they're not mentioning what, precisely, will define that fee, nor whether the fee will be in Lindens (as most in-world transactions) or in actual real currency (as in in-world divorces).
Changing one or both of your First and Last Name will be available as a single transaction. Last Names will be picked from a list, which you can help us curate.
Yay?
What’s a last name you would choose for yourself? We’ll soon hold a contest seeking your contributions to the pool of last name options. From all of the suggestions, we’ll pick five, and those five lucky Residents will be able to change their names completely free of charge! You will not need to be Premium to participate or to win. The contest will run December 16 through January 15th, and participation details will be announced shortly.
How...lucky for those residents. I don't want to enter, because I'm pretty happy with my last name, but this all seems very strange. Especially that post-January, people who choose to pay $12 a month (which feels like a forced choice, because elsewise, they're stuck with Resident until the end of time) will gain the ability to pay more to change their names, which is something Linden Labs shouldn't have completely screwed up so badly in the first place. Great. It feels like they're asking us to pay for their mistake.

Though it wouldn't be the first time...

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